Why do I feel so terrible when I get my way?

Update: ss20 didn't make his $300 payment so DH went to the bank and got $300 out for me to buy my text books.

The bottom line is, I get really tired of the skid family taking advantage of DH. I gave the kid $2K toward his truck of my money. So why do I feel so bad about it?

Why can't DH see that I only care about him being constantly used for his money?

update: (guess who left 3 100$ bills on the kitchen table....DH) and he's acting pissy!

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I know how you feel. It's

I know how you feel. It's not that you want to get "your way", it's that you want to teach this skid to be responsible, right? At least that's how I feel. And sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who cares enough to try to teach him. It can be very frustrating.

These are some very good

These are some very good insights. I do feel helpless and frustrated that I can't seem to be a positive influence on this family. My self esteem is in the gutter. DH said...he is just "waiting" on me to leave. He was angry when he said it and he said it to hurt my feelings. And it worked!

So why is it that I try to stand up for him and our agreement, I am the one who gets degraded. Seems kind of like an abuse of control or to put me in my place and shut me up. I really worry that this marriage isn't going to make it and that I'll have to start all over again...for the 3rd time.

I'm okay with letting it go

I'm okay with letting it go and letting the kid keep the truck. It all seems so pointless now. The idea was DH holding him responsible: FAIL. So now I feel stupid for expecting him to follow up. I have enough info that I should know he won't.

Everything I ever had i invested in this family so leaving isn't even a possibility for me. I adore my husband, but I really hate how he can't see my good intentions......or he does see them and chooses to withhold HMMM?

At this point Michael is seeming pretty pleasant.

You're right, I went into

You're right, I went into this KNOWING that I didn't have any control to enforce payment, knowing I was liable because my name is on the title, and heres why I did it. DH wants so much to do something to help his kid and I always bend over backwards to give DH what he wants because I love him so much.

This effort by me is apparently causing DH to disrespect me? Ya think? Talking with yall like this is really helping me. I am very hurt today and I have to find a new way to funtion.

Now I'm going to the ear specialist because I've been sick for 9 months with a recurrent ear infection.