DH and BM and these long emails continue. Although, this last one to BM was fun to read. He is tired of her not settling the CO and continuing to try and find things wrong with SS. Rather than parenting SS12 she continues to try and find activities for him to "Fix" him. He is fine when he is here. We don't see all the problems that she is talking about. Her last email indicated that he required her to tell him something 5 times to get him to do it. Well we never have that issue. DH asks him to do something he does it. She says he won't do his homework at her house. Here, DH expects it to be done and then goes over it with him.

She is still rallying for drugs for SS. DH has said no. Now he has to meet with the lawyers to serve BM with contempt papers for letting SD14 go out of state without the courts permission. We know this is the 2nd or third time she has done it. She made us go through hoops to go on vacation this summer. Since she still hasn't settled because she thinks she is entitled to CS, nothing has changed. You still have to get permission. I hate how these BM's think the rules don't apply to them.

Back to the last email, DH confronted her on her whining about the spending of money for SS. He stated he never had an issue with the money, he had an issue about her rather than parenting, she keeps trying to hire other people to parent her child.

He also stated that if she would settle the case rather than continue to pay the lawyers she may not have financial issues. Keep in mind she makes over 110K a year.

He also stated that her lawyers calculation of $576 a month was bogus and a mediator would figure that out. They called it a misc amount. His lawyers came up with $75.00 per month and he was willing to discuss.

She has no clue that the 10K plus she has spent on this, is actually more than she would get from DH. He only would have to pay for three years. The plan for us is to write her a check for the full amount and have her walk away. As for the relationship with SD14, DH keeps trying to talk with her. She won't return emails or phone calls and he is tired of trying. BM doesn't encourage any relationship. She has created this mess and allows it to get worse daily.

The contempt of court is for letting SD14 go to Florida to universal with three friends. She came home at midnight on Sunday and then promptly missed school for two day because she was sick. Great parenting. She forgets that she still has to talk to "Dad". Why do they think that the fathers don't count. We have 50/50 custody still. Nothing has been finalized regarding SD. If DH wanted he could go get her at any point. He just doesn't want to deal with her and BM anymore.

As for SS, he had a great week here. His group therapy went well. He has made two new friends this week. Him and his dad played tennis. SS was asked if he wanted lessons. Told DH - no, but mom wants me to. I just want to hit the ball around and have fun. So that is what they did.

BM just keeps trying to schedule every waking moment of that kid's life, because she doesn't want to parent or take a day off...