BM gets PAS in every way she can think of.

We have to bring specific complaints to court and have it written in the CO that she can't do this or that specific behaviour, as in she is prohibited from discussing emotions when she calls skids.

Well, she's getting more creative.

This weekend when she called I heard SD5 telling her questioning SD5 about whether SD5 had spent any time making cards and pictures for her. We had this problem a couple of years ago, when the kids would return home she'd cry if they hadn't spent their time with us making little things for her to show her they missed her. She'd make them feel guilty for hurting her feelings and not thinking about her while they were gone. It stopped for a long time because she was busy making trouble about passports and other things but apparently it's started up again.

SD5 was very upset about mommy's hurt feelings and promised mommy she would draw pictures and make card that I 'I love you and I miss you' that she would bring home the next day. After the call SD5 asked dad if he would help her make mommy some pictures and dad told her no, it was bedtime. The next day SD5 asked again but we were busy and dad said no. When we returned SD5 went and drew pictures then asked SD8 to write 'I love you mommy, I miss you' on the cards.

My initial response would be to shake my head at the incompetence that is their mother and let it go. However, this bitch has withheld access for months at a time over nothing and she can't be trusted. Court is coming up where we are asking to have her phone calls cut down to one per week. She is arguing that the kids miss her so much and are miserable without her so she should be able to call as often as she wishes. I think she's trying to get these cards as 'proof' that the kids miss her.

The truth is that they don't miss her. They almost never mention her except for right after the phone calls. To hear BM tell it they spend the entire time with us crying for her. Nothing could be further from the truth.

So, SO had to be the bad guy and tell SD5 that she could not take the pictures home to mommy. It's not ideal, we don't want to be like that but what choice do we have? I know that technically, not letting SD5 draw pictures for mommy and take them home is also PAS. Does it count though when the only reason they were being done in the first place was because of PAS from the BM?