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Submitted by clairedelune on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 7:55am

I've noticed that since I have told SD13 how I felt that life has been so much easier! She doesn't talk to me, barely stands being in the same room and does everything to avoid me. Ok, before I would have been mortified by this because I had the 'we live in the same house and have to get along and since I'm married to her father we have to like each other' attitude but now, I couldn't care less!
My BS is much happier cause she has stopped harassing him and we have fun cause I don't have to worry about including her! Yes, she tries to bump into the time I have with DH but I just look at her and smile when he is leaving and she is trying to get his attention and that gets her pissed off and she leaves! Baby I know but I WIN!
So, so far so good! Hopefully it wont die down and she'll keep up this great attitude of hers and keep out of my sight!
Makes me sound like a bitch but I am sick and tired of worrying about how she feels and if she likes me or not! She has BM's family to care about that!

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Submitted by Eyes Wide Open on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 10:39am

touche'.....

We don't HAVE to love them, or even like them. It would be nice if it all worked out, but sometimes it doesn't.

I was just beating my head against the wall. All of the effort came from ME, the skadults didn't even meet me half way (heck, not even 1/4 way!). I realized that I had more successful interactions with the neighbor kids than I did with HIS kids.

The day I figured that one out was the day my life became calm again! Our relationship (DH & I) has improved, our social life has improved. Everything is better! If that's what it takes to maintain our sanity, then that's what it takes!

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Submitted by clairedelune on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 7:58pm

Thanks ladies! Appreciate the feedback! Glad to know I'm not alone or turning into a psycho bitch! Life is so much easier and I'm not gonna be a loon now that I figured how to disengage lol

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Submitted by halfstepmom2skids on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 8:08pm

Wait until she tries to talk to you because she is mad at her bm. That is the only time my sd tries to talk to me now. I entertain what she has to say until she starts bashing her bm, then I get up and walk away and say, "sorry, honey, i aint gonna sit here and listen to you bash your mom".
I am glad you got to your "Ahhhh" moment. I hope you can stay there too.

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Submitted by clairedelune on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 9:15pm

BM killed herself... she used to bash her and I used to tell her I didn't want to hear anything negative about the woman who was taking care of her. Now I understand so much why the BM did what she did as far as being very strict!