Yeah her illness is a A$$hole. I just don't get it. She sounds like my ex. She puts the kids in activities and expects me to play taxi on my time with them. I don't do it to her, so, why do that to me ? I have a very limited time with them being the non-custodial parent. So why not try to encourage contact and let me have my kids in peace ? She blows up my cell when they are with me, leaves stupid messages, I just don't get it. I think she really needs a boyfriend or someone. I have limited my days with my kids thinking she would get tired and stop with all her evilness, but so far it has been a uphill battle. Can't wait for my kids to drive , then she can't pull all this garbage. I refuse to spend thousands to go back to court with her. So pathetic. :jawdrop:

i wonder if my DH and your DH were married to the same crazy loon. our BM situation is the same except she is IN the state. sigh. i wish we had more space. who was the judge? obviously not the one my DH got... he had custody but then a social worker butted in and said the kids "needed" their BM... now everything is messed up. she is liar and theif and we end up suffering the most trying to keep life normal. i cant wait til 2019. they will be in college and it wont be AS bad i hope.
dont expect the BM in your situation to ever be normal or care about your schedule or even the child's. sad but true... it is all about the BM in their heads. they are the victims in life and as long as someone will listen to their sob stories they are happiest.

gosh this is just awful for your sd poor little girl to have an awful mother like that. What is so wrong with your dh being in sd's life?? i hope some real changes come from the contempt case for yall.

Unfortunately the worst part in all this, is that this SD will hate her mother later on. She's at a vulnerable age where it will only confuse her but later on, when thelight bulb goes off.....her mother will be in deep water.
My sd went through alot of alienation, stupid tactics on her mothers part. She now hates her mother. She's told me, i love her but i hate the person she is. BUT, here's another ugly perception on her part, the BM has put so much poison in this girls mind about her father, so much doubt, that she also doesn't like him either. At times, will call up her dad , call him names.etc...
She's now old enough, in her teens to be spoken to. I've set her aside. Firmly, and nicely told her, 'you know who your mother is now, what she has done, the games etc..etc....i cannot change what you think of both your parents, But know this, i will not tolerate you calling in my home , on my time, calling my husband names. He maybe your father, he's my husband and i will protect him like you protect your boyfriend, Because we love our mates right? i could see she understood. I told her, i can understand your anger at both your parents, but you shooting off your mouth and acting disrespectful will only worsen things.
I do not have alot of problems anymore from sd or bm anymore...we have kept alot of distance and it honestly helps my sanity. But the damage has been done to both his kids due to alienation tactics due to BM selfishness, jealousy and insecurities.
The only thing we can all do, is hope when these kids grow up, and finally have their license, their heads ontheir shoulders, they're realize their fathers honestly do love them and want them in their lives. Going to court is veyr expensive....and not an option for all of us. Best thing is to never talk ill about their mother when visitation comes, have fun, dont involve kids with problems, money , clothes , items fights...petty things....you know what i mean.
Some BMs, like the one i had, honeslty look for something to fight with dh and make him look 'bad' in front of thekids...to have them on her side...its childish. Very damaging.
Stick to your gutt feelings, keep in contact with sd, keep telling you love her and keep placing bm in her place. When the court hearing pops up, add this incident in, dont change the activities for sd on account of her BM. Is she happy when she's at your house? That is what counts.