Nusiance calls from adult SD *sigh*
So,looks like things have taken a new turn with SD22,a girl that i have barely been able to get to know(her choice),and who seems determined to get some kind of reaction from me.
Last night,having not seen her for a year(she decided she wanted to see her father alone during visits),i recieved a call from her at midnight(Got me out of bed).She seemed unusually 'friendly',asked me how i was,and began to make small talk,i was abit taken aback because this just wasn't 'her',she is NEVER friendly to me!So,the conversation ended,then not 2 minutes later,the phone rang again,i answered,and she said she had the wrong number and hung up.Ten minutes later,the same thing happened.Then an hour later(by this time it was gone 1 in the morning),she did it again,only this time,i heard her friends giggling in the background,she said sorry she had the wrong number AGAIN,and hung up-I unhooked the phone this time,and didn't give her the response she was obviously looking for.My husband is away again for a few days with his job,but when he called me earlier,i casually mentioned that SD had made these calls really late and had got me out of bed,his response was a sarcastic,'oh,well then i will ask MY daughter not to bother disturbing you EVER again',i tried to explain very 'carefully',that the calls were made in not such a nice way,but he just wasn't interested and changed the subject,and so,i didn't press him any further.
Ugh, i just don't undestand,i thought that when she stopped coming over,and arranged visits that included my DH only,that this would really strengthen their own relationship,and she would perhaps see me as less of a threat,however,after the latest incident,i am now wondering if she has an agenda,and because she cannot get a reaction,she is upping the anti.The thing is,i won't rise to it,and if she is looking for a reaction,she will only frustrate herself further,question is,is my DH going to realise anytime soon that he has a pair? *sigh*,....it's all so unecessary,things could be so different.
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At midnight and then at
At midnight and then at 1am?!?! Is she hitting the sauce (drinking), because I would think so especially since she was friendly and all. Maybe the first call was an accident, but then they thought it was funny.
About you dh growing/finding his balls...next time you are thereduring an intimate moment look up at him and say "honey, your balls are back! Do they only attach when you go to sleep?" really, I haven't done this yet, but I will soon. I have told fh that now that he has some balls he should grow some hair on them and then maybe pull his spine from out of his ass!
Sorry! Had a bad day with fh "women" drama!!!
Thanks guys. At this moment
Thanks guys.
At this moment in time,and for the foreseeable future,i am afriad that should i accidently,and 'unexpectedly' stumble across my DH's balls,i may just yank them back off again,he doesn't deserve them!
LMAO!!!
LMAO!!!
That's actually a VERY good
That's actually a VERY good idea!!
this sounds like the best
this sounds like the best solution. What is up with these guys that treat their So's so poorly? I would never treat my wife like this. I love my kids, but would not put them above her.
Why does she hate you? The
Why does she hate you? The reason I ask is that there is a ton of drama surrounding my SD (22) and she HATES me and told her Dad the same thing. He told me to either make it work or I'm out....I'm not going anywhere!!
I know why my SD hates me, I called her out on her nasty remarks and negativity towards me and she flipped out. THe entire family doesn't "upset" her when she is a b*&Tch because the drama she creates is too much!! LOL!! Well, I will not be the one to dance around her crap, so I might have to pack!
Just wanted to see what your SD's reason is for hating you.
Ugh stepaside,please tell me
Ugh stepaside,please tell me it gets easier?!
I think the route problem,was
I think the route problem,was when we first got together.As soon as i came along with my BD,it sent shock waves out not only to my DH's kids,but also the BM.He readily admitts,that before i came along,his world revolved around his kids,and that he perhaps spoiled them too much.He hadn't had a serious relationship before i came along,and i guess,the kids and BM had become used to him being on his own.BM remarried,but was heavily reliant on DH for everything,she was very much used to having him at her beck and call,with DH even buying her cars to drive,so,as soon as i popped up,it must have been a complete shock for them all.
I can recall my DH telling me,that he was once with someone for a year,but he was too scared to introduce her to his kids incase they felt hurt,the relationship ended when the girlfriend became tired of DH cancelling dinner dates whenever his kids wanted a ride somewhere because BM was too 'tired'.I can also recall his best friend telling me,how years ago,he had to take my husband to one side and have a word with him,because his kids and ex wife treated him as if he had no life of his own,that he was just there for them,and them only,and apparently,he became quite depressed and isolated as a result.I think he's a good dad,he loves his kids,but his guilt and years of needing to appease his kids and ex wife,has ultimately resulted in them hating 'me',for existing.They do not see me as someone who makes their dad happy,they see me as an unexpected,and unforseen obstacle they want rid of.It's sad,and in all honesty,i don't ever see thing's changing a whole lot.
Thanks stepaside, what you
Thanks stepaside,
what you say really makes sense,i find it so sad that my DH is so skilled at being manipulative,and all for what?To protect his grown daughter when she bullies?!I feel angry that there are men out there who allow their kids to disrespect their wive's in this way,when it's pretty simple to me.If my daughter dared to treat myself,my DH,or anyone else like that,i would be all over her,and then some,but then,*gasp*,i actually dare to parent my child and teach her the importance of respecting others!
You're right,if SD is silly enough to call me again in the middle of the night,i will answer,and then calmly hang up on her.I'm getting too long in the tooth for all this now.
I think next time my DH also tries to shift the focus from SK's behaviour,to me,i am going to stand my ground,and remind him to stick to the issue,if he doesn't,i will simply leave the room and refuse to listen to him........Ugh,if only he realised how harmful his own attitude is towards our marriage.
noooooo,omg!!!lol,that is too
noooooo,omg!!!lol,that is too funny!
And,yes,i would imagine that SD was more than likely 'on' something,it wouldn't suprise me at all as she has been doing drugs on and off since the age of 15.
Thanks everyone for all the
Thanks everyone for all the wonderful advice.
Stepaside,i hope to be able to reach the place you are in someday,i am 7 years in,and still finding it tough,so,your wisdom and knowledge is like a breath of fresh air.Your husband is very lucky to have you,infact,come to think of it,all of our DH's are lucky to have to us!!
Goforit-Why didn't i think of that?lol.
I would have taken him up on
I would have taken him up on his offer. Said "great, please be sure and do that, it would make my life easier" and walk away. End the discussion. He will eventually realize that she is immature and that you didn't create her attitude, she did that all on her own. Why should you be subjected to it??
jsmom,You don't know how much
jsmom,You don't know how much i would love to say that!!Sometimes,i would love to be able to turn around and just say what i am thinking in my head,but unfortunately,i know if i did,it would just make him even more defensive,cause further problems,and of course,SK's and BM would love it if this happened,...but,sometimes,just 'sometimes',i would really like to say it like it is.