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Submitted by logiebug13 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 9:25am

So the BM has put SD8 on a pedastal her entire life, obsesses over her, buys her love and treats her as though she is still toddler - she had created an inappropriate bond between her and SD8 but to the level that SD8 favored her because she thought it was supposed to be like that. I always knew that one day SD8 would end up hating her for it.. just thought it would happen around 13ish or so. Well my very smart SD8 has caught on to the major BS and is tired of it! It feels so good to be the favored house for once! Although very bittersweet as i dont want SD8 to dislike being with BM either.

I just hope that as SD8 starts challenging her BM that perhaps BM will learn something....

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Submitted by Riley63 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 9:28am

Wow! Congratulations as I to am in this situation with SD9 and the bond she has with her bipolar mother is extremly unhealthy to say the least. How did she wake up and realize that her BM is full of it?

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Submitted by logiebug13 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 9:49am

I have no idea lol. the bm treats her like a baby still washes her hair and bathes her wont let her get her hair cut shorter, ears peirced etc etc. Makes her feel guilty for leaving her "alone" when SD8 is at our house. SD8 is finally seeking some independence and BM is badly stepping on her toes lol. At our house she is treated like an 8 year old and is able to make her own choices with our guidance. last night she rolled with complaints about her. When i tried to do damage control to preserve her relationship wtih her BM (i hate having to do that lol) she said "you dont have to lie for my mom, I may be only 8 but im not stupid" lmao

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Submitted by bribaby1105 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 10:01am

OMG! I think you must be living the same life as me!! My SD10 is treated the same way by her mother. She is bribed and even tho her mother doesn't work and hasn't worked for years (lives off of child support and welfare) she is constantly trying to bribe her for affection. My SD has realized that her mother promises her everything and rarely delivers. Of course she still loves her mom(as she should) and defends her, but she is def. starting to figure out who does what and who she can count on. WONDERFUL!

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Submitted by prayerhelps on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 10:15am

SD17 was same way, now she has reverted back to BM due to the "permissive Parenting" so be wary of that. BM treats her like a child still some times, but mainly as if they are BFF's rather than as a mom/daughter relationship. Good Luck and enjoy while you can

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Submitted by logiebug13 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 11:09am

The relationship between BM and SD is inappropriate. BM treats like she is 4 with rediculous rules due to her severly overprotective issues but also tries to be her best friend! how confusing for an 8 year old! she bathes her and would still feed her if she could yet dresses her like a 15 year old and takes her out to do things that you would do with older kids. but when i sometimes overhear their conversations with each other BM uses that high pitched overly excited tone that you use with 2 year olds! Very strange. But SD catching on! I can see how she would revert back to being mommys little girl again when she is older to avoid responsbility since she has NONE at her house and age appropriate amounts at ours. for now she seems to like the responsbility but im sure once the lazy teenager thing kids in she will choose whichever side has the best policy in her mind at the time lol

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Submitted by logiebug13 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 12:21pm

yikes! thats awful steperg! Amazing that some of these women have no boundaries with their kids - she is only going to give her a false sense of life. when that poor kid hits the real world shes not gonna know what to do and wont be able to function!