Hello, everyone!

First of all, it’s the first time posting my thoughts on this website. I find it a gift from God. I am amazed with how many problems folks who are stepparents could experience with their stepsons/daughters ‘parents (mothers in particular).
Second of all, I am glad to discover that I am not alone in my struggle with my husband ex partner, his son’s mother (they have not been married – Thank God for that. Otherwise it would have been the worst nightmare I would have ever experienced).
Anyway, the story started when I met my husband, over 2 years ago. He was going through a horrible situation at that time. His son’s mother- a person diagnosed with bipolar disorders when she was a teenager has decided to file a restraining order against him stating that he has physically abused her and the child. That was not true. The whole point had been a masterminded vendetta against him because he kicked her out of his house after repeatedly drama from her part. Keep in mind that this woman has bipolar disorders and knows how to play the victim. Plus her family never forgave her for having a child with a black man.
To make this story long short, my husband has been thorough 2 restraining orders, several court dates- he filled for custody and visitation- and plenty of traumatic events caused by this woman. She has never showed to any court date stating that she feared for her life. A big and fat BS, Ladies and Gentlemen!!!!
A year and a half ago she decides that she can no longer take care of the child. She is too tired, poor creature, of not doing what she is supposed to do. So, surprise, she calls my husband (who was my fiancé at that time) and tells him that she wants him to help her take care of the child for 2 weeks. Well, folks, we ended up by having the boy for a year and a half now. And he is still with us. She said she was going to make arrangements to have him live with her longer than 2 days. There has been a year and 6 months and no arrangements made.
My fiancé and I got married in May of this year. So I am officially his son’s stepmother. I don’t mind that. The boy is very affectionate and easy to take care of. He sees his mother whenever she has time for him and it’s convenient for her. She always has to consulate her agenda beforehand like she would be the President of the USA. We can’t count on her for anything.
The fun part is that she is not active in the boy’s life at all, but she has a lot of expectations. She says she does not have any financial and physical support from anybody. My husband has the custody and she does not pay any child support. Not because she does not have money. She had money to go to a plastic surgeon to have breast implants, she drives an expensive car, lives in a big city, in downtown, folks. And she has to struggle all the time. Everytime she calls us to talk to her son, I got literally angry, but not because she calls, but because of all the stupid things she is saying. It's like you would push a goddamn button and a lousy tape starts to play. She doesn’t care about this child. She had him because she thought she would be financially secured for the rest of her life…Surprise, honey. You are not the only woman on this planet who had given birth to a child.
In the meantime, we are taking care of the child. Not that I mind doing it. But it’s not fair. When it comes to have expectations, she is the first one. And it makes me angry, furious all the time. My husband always tells me that it is not worth it. I know that, but I can’t help it. And I keep telling myself that she is going to pay the price one day, if not now. She hasn’t established any bond with her child. Isn’t that sad? She says that she can’t control him due to her condition. But she can go to clubs, parties and all that crap. But she cannot take care of a 3 year-old boy.
I am putting an end to my story, already too long, and if you, good folks, have some advice, don’t hesitate it to comment on my lines.
Thank you!