I thought this was a VENT site

So, i wonder why we have a few new posters who have nothing to post except something along the lines of:

"it's all about the kids and you should be ashamed of yourself if you don't adore skids and be willing to take a bullet for them"..

so they don't post that exactly, but they sure do discount our gripes as SPs... i'm all for positive feedback and constructive criticism, but really if i wanted to be told what kind of a bad/horrible person i was for having feelings i can't control ~~ i would call my mil. why are they at a vent site if they have no vents in their rosey little step life?

and there's one on here that's a doosey of a do gooder wanna be..... i feel like slapping her everytime i read one of her "you're so horrible, what about the skids" posts..

with all this being said, it is a vent site and that's all i was doing!

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I agree, starfish...i'm

I agree, starfish...i'm really tempted to ignore those posts altogether!

I agree too

use that handy dandy delete

use that handy dandy delete button we have now and no one has to be bored by their same response over and over again..... }:)

"bumper-sticker pearls of

"bumper-sticker pearls of wisdom crap"

F'n LOVE that.... i can't wait to use it.....

Oh My Gosh. Bumper Sticker

Oh My Gosh. Bumper Sticker Pearls of Wisdom.

That is totally ME!!!!!

I love that!!

I am full of crap most of the time and don't I know it. I still try to inject sunshine.

I still love all of you guys though... just tune me out when I'm getting on your nerves.

Personally, I think you give

Personally, I think you give some of the best advice on here!

Exactly, Spunki!!!

kick rocks in bare feet with

kick rocks in bare feet with a fresh french pedi! hahaha

I know that this is a site

I know that this is a site for the topic of stepparents but I am also a bio parent and there are many times that I feel the need to vent about my bio kids and there have been times that things were difficult with them also, step kids are not the only one's that have the ability to drive us nuts. There is a double standard though that I could make a statement such as "I'll kick your ass" meaning that you are going to be frustrated or upset with their actions but if they are stepkids then you are creating emotional abuse and you have just threatened to physically abuse the child. Many of us spend just as much time or maybe more with our step children than our biological children, of coarse they get on our nerves. I always joke that the reason that God had the transition period called "teenagers" is because we would never allow our kids to move out otherwise, once

I'm with you, too,

I'm with you, too, Starfish...

This is all very very complicated, and it takes a WHILE to adapt.

I posted on here last night (after my H went to sleep) about my revelation this weekend. I met my SDs when they were 24, 23, 20. They were already ADULTS. I never had the chance to BOND with them, and I can't feel "badly' about it anymore.

I just don't have the kind of "maternal feelings" toward them as I do for my own biological children. Period. If I don't see them for a year or two, I don't miss them....my daughter has been at the shore for three days and I miss her terribly!!

And, I told my H that this past weekend. What am I suupposed to do? Pretend that I love them to pieces when i don't? I'm just not a hypocrite like that. The way YOU FEEL is the way YOU FEEL, so don't worry about venting here....you'll get lots of support.

Venting is perfectly fine.

Venting is perfectly fine. As long as it's not offensive, no problem. Some times that's what we need to do.

You are in charge of your own blog as far as deleting comments.

If you don't like the content of someone's blog, ignore it. If it's offensive, flag it.

Even good people have bad days!

Dawn

Dawn ROCKS! and i want to

Dawn ROCKS!

and i want to thank Dawn for the best web site ever!!! I hope you and yours are doing well... lots of love and hugs from extremely greatful starfish.....

spud33 ~~~ you feel my

spud33 ~~~ you feel my pain... thank you, you wonderful stepper..

steperg, i always appreciate your no kiss ass point of view!

speeps, we're stronger in numbers, so let's keep the support platform dawn & admin has given us going strong!!!