Good For You!!! I did the same thing. Bill collectors were calling our house phone. DH didn't do as I asked (tell them her info) so I finally gave them HER phone number and address, lol. }:)

SecondBest09, good for you!! I'll bet this is more of a common problem for a lot of us here on ST than we realize!! All of these incessant incoming mail/phone calls from debt collectors looking for deadbeat exW's/BM's. Never ceases to amaze me how much CS $$$ they collect, yet they STILL can't manage to be accountable enough to PAY for their excessive spending... I digress..

My BF used to do the SAME THING - put BM's overdue bills in skids' schoolbag or whatever so that when the skids were exchanged, so were the overdue bills. When the debt collectors would call our home, we would come home from work to messages constantly from them looking for BM. Back then, he would just erase them. Problem is, erasing the messages doesn't stop the calls.

After years of this type of thing, over and over and over again...MILOMOM takes matters into her OWN hands!!

1. All phone calls from debt collectors looking for BM are promptly answered (and callbacks for all messages left when we're not home) and ALL RECENT KNOWN INFO. ON BM IS PROMPTLY GIVEN TO THEM and DEMAND IS MADE FOR THEM TO IMMEDIATELY CEASE CALLING OUR HOUSE & REMOVING OUR PHONE # FROM THEIR RECORDS! I politely give them ALL of BM's info. - current address, home phone #, cell phone # and they thank me profusely and apologize for calling. We are now DEBT COLLECTOR FREE from BM!!

2. Any & all mail that arrives I promptly write "RETURN TO SENDER" or "no known person at this address" or whatever I need to write - and all mail gets returned to that sender.

Quick story: Last year 1 particular debt collector kept calling our house for BM & leaving messages. After putting up with this for years, I decided to hand-write a small post-it note for BM (just like a secretary taking a message) with this company's name, return phone #, date & time of call, etc... and wrote "Re: debt collection" or "unpaid debt" or something like that. During a usual dropoff at BM's place, I gave the message to SS12 and asked that he leave it for BM next to her phone. Of course, "superspy" SS12 immediately texted BM once he got into the house (while BM was at work) to "report" this Milomom message to her. She, of course, tried to BULLSHIT her way out of it ("oh, that call wasn't for me." "Oh, that was an old doctor bill from 6 years ago that I already paid", blah, blah, blah.). You know what, BM, it's called ACCOUNTABILITY for your actions. I'm sure SS12 believed HER version of the story, but at least the "seed of truth" is planted in his mind about who BM REALLY is, not who she PRETENDS to be - mother of the year who NEVER would do ANYTHING wrong.... Well, that same debt collection company called again (lucky me!) about 1-2 weeks later, so I gave SS12 a post-it note message AGAIN to give to BM when I did a usual pickup from BM's house. What do you know, about 5 mins. later, BM was calling SS12 - again with MORE EXCUSES!!

OH, and the BEST PART of this story, is that SS12 was sitting right in front of me when she called and I HEARD HER!!

BM: "oh, that call is about a bill that I already paid a long time ago, their records are wrong, I'll call them & tell them to fix their records. Tell Milomom I said thanks for the message so that I know about it."

SS12: "ok Mom"
BM: "make sure you tell Milomom that it's already paid and that I'll fix it and make sure you tell her I said thanks."
SS12: "ok Mom"
BM: "NO, SS12, DO IT NOW! TELL MILOMOM NOW WHAT I SAID!"
SS12 (embarrassed that I'm sitting right in front of him hearing the whole conversation): "ok, Mom, I will...hold on...Milomom, my mom says thanks, etc...."
Me (pretending that I didn't hear their conversation): "oh, sure, no problem, it's nothing, really, no big deal".
SS12: "ok Mom, see? I told her."
BM: "ok, SS12, I love you. Mwah (kissing sound). I miss you." (meanwhile he just left her house 5 min. before)
SS12: "love you too, Mom, bye"

Sorry to hijack your post, SecondBest09! I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Your NEW ATTITUDE is great and I'm doing the same types of things and trust me, it is helping MORE THAN I CAN EXPLAIN IN WORDS!!!

i did the same thing to bm's bill collectors..... bm had her phone turned off b/c of the calls, so all these collection notices were coming to my house, so i called them gave them her cell #, work #, address and her parents number.

I threw away the ex wifes jury summons and a report that her car had been in an accident. Anything that looks remotly important i make sure gets trashed. Hahahaha