Not Looking Forward to Step Son's Wedding
My 27-year old SS is getting married this weekend and I am not looking forward to it. His BM will be walking him down the aisle, and now my DH will be his best man (his best friend was his best man, but had a family emergency), so this ought to get really interesting.
So we are all going to be sitting in first row together (BM-after she walks the groom down the aisle, her father (SS's grandfather), my 3 adult SD's, possibly their boyfriends, my step grand-daughter, Me and my 2 young sons). Now, BM and I have been in the same general areas before-graduations (entire gymnasiums to get away from each other in), concerts (entire auditoriums to get away from each other in, and situations like that)but to be sitting in the same row together is a bit scary. My experience with BM is that she is nuts and my SD's are nuts as well. We will see how it all goes, but I hope it isn't a day where I am bashed all day long and my kids are picked on.
Hopefully it all goes better than it feels like it will.
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I can see how you would not
I can see how you would not exactly be excited for something like that.
Hope the days goes smoothly for you and hope at the reception (assuming there is one and assuming everyone will be going to that, as well) is in a place where you have a lot of space to stay away from each other.
my SS is only 12,, but I have
my SS is only 12,, but I have thought about how i'm going to handle these siuation already? I don't want to be 10 feet near her for ANYTHING,,I hate her as much as she hates me,, I know it's all about the kids and we are the grown ups, but she created sooo much drama, and problems that have affected ME personally,and directly attacked me(verbally) many times, and for that it became personal??? i'm gonna follow your story, i'm intrested to hear how this goes for you?
I hope that everyone is on
I hope that everyone is on their best behavour for you and your kids sake. Remember that you are setting the example of how to behave to your kids. It's hard to remember that when dealing with nutbags. But your kids will remember.
During the ceremony, you can always shush anyone who says anything to you with the "I'm trying to hear what they say". And keep your kids close to you! I would not let them out of my sight with the Planters Peanuts Family running around!
Well, it all turned out OK.
Well, it all turned out OK. BM showed up with her father (SK's grandfather) almost late. Parked where they weren't suppose to park, therefore blocking in the caterers and Justice of the Peace. Then she walked up to my husband and I and pretended to be really sugary nice to us. Talk about being uncomfortable! Oh, and she made googly eyes at my little boy. That really creeped me out.
She waked my SS down the aisle, sat down in the front row, next to her father. There wasn't enough room for anyone to sit next to them other than SD's and only one of the SD's sat with her, but half way through the wedding that SD moved to the back of seating area. Another SD sat in the next row behind her with her daughter and boyfriend and then my husband, kids and I sat in the third row back with another SD and her friends sitting behind us.
BM made it through the photos, but then decided to have a smoke break with one of the SD's and missed the group photo with everyone in it, she got mad, had an argument with the SD that she had the smoke break with, loaded her father up in their vehicle and left. But as she was leaving she drove up to me as I was standing next to the driveway and parked for a moment and starred at me and my older son, so we just walked away. Then she drove off. Weird. Really weird.