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Submitted by Thetis on Tue, 03/30/2010 - 5:15pm

God it would be great if he came in with a bunch of roses and said he was so sorry for putting me and baby through all this shit. And that we can try to talk about the boundaries and definately check out that family councilling thing.

But in real life he'll come home. Run to the bathroom for and hour or so. Make a mess in the kitchen while he fixes his supper. Read my note, and push it aside. Then sit and watch tv till he falls asleep.

I'm worried though. Reading up on stress and babies. I could be doing some damage to my babys brain development with the amount of stress hormones I have in my body. I just hope he doesn't try to fight again.

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Submitted by BMJen on Tue, 03/30/2010 - 6:11pm

Thetis.........STOP IT HONEY. Stop it right now. Enough of this. To much stress during pregnancy can do alot more than mess with the baby's brain. Stop all the stress. I know you think I'm talking out of my ass, but I'm not.

I was going through alot when I was pregnant also.

You have to learn how to hit the "mute" button. Go to your room, read a book, play a video game, go for a walk. Do what ever you have to do to stop all of this stress you are taking on. It's to much for you and the baby.

Have you considered staying with your mom for a while?

You are a momma now, you have to do whatever needs to be done to protect your child. Please do what you have to do, but stop all the constant stress. ((((((((((((((((Thetis))))))))))))))

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Tue, 03/30/2010 - 6:20pm

Please disengage...spend as much time as you can w/family or friends who won't listen or don't know about your issues...it will help you relax and forget a bit..,my kiddo is 8 w/speech delay and I've read how stress of the mother causes that..,I wish I could do it all again...I allowed those horrendous people to wear me down while I was preggo...don't let them do that yo your child...hugs

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Submitted by DISbelief on Tue, 03/30/2010 - 6:28pm

Oh Thetis... Jen is right. You need to go to a calm place. This kind of stress is not good for you OR the baby. I know it seems never ending, and that he just doesn't care, but you have to take the time to care about YOU and the baby. Big HUGE (((HHHHUUUGGGSSSS))) Love ya girl!

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~ Wink

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Submitted by Ani on Wed, 03/31/2010 - 9:16am

I will say to strongly follow Jen's advise.....STOP IT !!!! You have to think of your baby.....that baby depends on you.....be strong for the baby growning inside of you sweetie.....take a break go out with friends to lunch, stay at your mom's for a few days, knit a baby blanket just turn on the happy botton...ok? hugs