My husband and I married almost two years ago. We've been together for 4. I have a daughter that is 12, and he has a son that is 10. Ever since the beginning, my hb is very uncomfortable and treats me differently when we are around his sons mom, or his son. At sports events, he will not hardly speak to me, touch me, show any affections whatsoever. Just prior to us marrying, his ex asked him to look online and see if her nude pictures that they both put on there were still there. After we got married, she reduced visitation with my hb son. My husband resents me for this, and has made that clear. Before we married, him and his ex talked several time a day, about anything but their son, and I put a stop to that. The mid-dinner interruptions got annoying fast. We have our children everyother weekend, on the same weekend. When they are home, it's Him and his son against my daughter and I. Who left this out, who left that out, who left the light on.
My husband hates step families. His parents divorced when he was an adult and he has not come to terms with it. Both parents are remarried, and he hates their spouses. He always told his ex that he would never re-marry, becuase he did not want his son to have a step-mom. Now that we're married, it is evident that he keeps a distinct wall between his son and I. He does not treat me as well when his boy is at our house. He has expressed to me that he feels guilty that he has "ruined" his sons life by not being able to work thing out with his ex. I feel like I've gotten in the middle of an emotional mess. I know his ex still has feelings for him, and I'm wondering if he just doesn't want her to know that we are happy, so he treats me like crap when she or her son are around or what. He has NO relationship whatsoever with my daughter. He barely speaks to her. I feel as though he hasn't gotten over him and his ex's split (which happend when his son was 2, he's 10 now) and he resents me for being around when his son is at our house. Does this make sense?