Does your SS/SD act differently when you DH/SO is not around?
This topic just came up in a conversation on another blog and now I am curious about it. Does your stepchild act differently when it is just you and he/she than when dad is with?
Here's my story:
Just C and I at the mall:
1. She hardly ever asks for anything unless I suggest it. The only thing she really asks me to do is go to the candy factory and get her a huge jawbreaker (which I don't mind if she has been good)or go get a pretzel cause she knows I love them too.
2. She doesn't whine and complain.
3. She actually likes to look at things for me and helps me pick out stuff.
4. She tells me stories that actually make sense and makes me laugh.
5. She doesn't run around or act hyper. She isn't clingy and does things for herself.
6. She tells me thank you and doesn't try and take advantage of me.
7. She may ask for something from time to time but if it is something ridiculous or something she just wants on a whim...I tell her no and that is the end of the conversation...and she doesn't get mad.
8. Doesn't say she is bored constantly
OK other scenario:
Dad, daughter and I at the mall:
1. Everything that she could possible play with, wear or eat is....Daddy daddy daddy please buy me that...daddy daddy please get me that....I'm hungry, I'm thirsty, I want this too. But daddy daddy daddy please please....I really want that....please please. There is never more to her conversations that day but begging and whining and crying.
2. when dad caves in and buys her everything she wants...not even a thank you...and a lot of the time what she buys is never even played with, worn or even taken out of the box.
3. She constantly wants to eat whatever she sees and she gets it...she takes a couple bites and there was the six bucks it cost. Another thing that I have noticed about eating when dad is around is that she always insists on ungodly amounts of things (like a 50 pc chicken nugget deal for herself) and cries if she doesn't get it.
3. Runs around jumping on things....riding in the cart...climbs on things....very clingy and dependant for everything
4. I'm bored, I'm bored, I'm bored constantly when there is any break in the caos
Kinda wierd huh...love to hear other people stories
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Yeah, my ss9 definitely acts
Yeah, my ss9 definitely acts different with me alone than versus him, SO, and I.
He does basically all the things in your first list. But when Daddy's around, everything is Daddy, Daddy, Daddy. However, I have to say that SS9 is a very grateful little boy, (funny I should say this, but I give credit where credit is due: BM is doing a GREAT job with him), but he does tend to do the bored thing. I don't really pay mind to it because I know that he acts this way to get his father's attention. Hey, it's only EOW, I can understand why he needs the attention!!! If this was a full time thing, I think I'd feel a whole lot differently. But yep, I think they all do that.
Mine is a full time thing. I
Mine is a full time thing. I can't even imagine the joy of EOW or for that matter even one weekend to ourselves. EOW...sigh
Oh, god, no, at least she's
Oh, god, no, at least she's nipping it in the bud.
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I also have two ss who act
I also have two ss who act differently when dad is around. Dad accepts more misbehavior. They know the limits with me and know I'm serious. At the same time, I'll give credit to him that they seem more relaxed and playful. So it's a give and take!
For me it is the opposite.
For me it is the opposite. My DH is a strict dad, with SD10 and our boys. She never asks him for anything, she only asks me. I am a bit of a pushover with the kids, I certainly spoil BS3 more since he is always with me (SD just EOWknd).
When my DH is around at home vs when he is gone she acts the same, no difference there.
BTW my DH and I have been together since SD was 3 1/2.
She sure does! When Daddy's
She sure does! When Daddy's around she's much less independent and unable to do things for herself. When she's with me, she's more on the grown-up side of 9 years old. I think it's probably because she knows I have the faith in her that she can handle things and there's no history of me doing everything for her like she's a baby. BF does too but he's more concerned with making life easy for her so he does everything for her and she knows what she can get away with.
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
My SS is the total opposite.
My SS is the total opposite. With me he is pure terror. He pokes his ugly big lips out whenever i say no. He is the rudest wretch i have ever come across. If I have to go the store or mall and DH is not around I will leave him home alone. He irks my last nerve. But around DH he is the perfect angel. And DH says " he doesnt act that way around me" Duh! because he is a manipulator. This boy is the spawn of satan. If I can go the whole day without any interaction with him, I am blessed. BTW we have full custody