Yeah, don't go. I'm sure you can still offer advice to people who are going through what you went through as well.

~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~

Don't leave Bright. We can still use your valuable insight. Plus there are plenty of us here who can be shoulders to cry on.
((((HUGS))))

I am so sorry to hear that! A seperation is never good. I hope that you take this time to strengthen yourself.

Don't leave honey...now is when you need the most support until you get strong again.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

"If they sold clues at Walmart,I'd be first in line to get one for DH" ~the lovely Jbee~

BrightSide - I am so sorry to hear about your loss and all that you are going through.

Please don't feel that you have to leave here. Whether you want to stay and read, or post and respond, or PM some of us for support... You do have friends here.

I hope you can allow yourself to feel all of the grief that you are going through. Cry it out. Take a shower and let the warm water wash away your tears. Take care of and coddle yourself!! Watch whatever you want to watch and spoil yourself with some comfort food. ( Later on, we'll put a limit on the comfort food!!, but for now... you go and enjoy that brownie sundae with chocolate ice cream and chocolate sprinkles and warm hot fudge!!! mmmmmmm) (Or are you a salt girl??)

It's going to suck for a while, but as time goes by, it will suck and hurt less. And really honey... you never truly know. When one door closes, another one opens. This could be the start of the best year of your life!!

(( Hugs )) We are here for you!

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

Bright - Please don't go just because you're no longer in a step situation. There are so many wonderful women on here who have dealt with so many different problems in other areas of their lives who would love to help you through this. I have found that Stalk is more that a place for stepparents to vent. I've made friends here. I've joked and laughed and cried and grown in just the short 10 weeks I have been on here. I've found it to be a place to grieve the loss of my son, my fears of infertility, my inability to have a good relationship with my in-laws. I've shared the suicide of my brother and shared advice on controlling mothers to at least one member. Yes, this is a steptalk site, but the members here are some of the most wonderful people (men and women) I've ever known when it comes to support in any situation. Stay for awhile and let us help you heal.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

Maybe it's not for good anyways. Sometimes men need a break from the best thing that's ever happened to them in order to fully appreciate it. Give him some time, maybe he'll come to grips with the fact that he needs you and learn how to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. In the meantime, enjoy your skid free life, but don't leave stalk. You can help other people (like me) who are travelling the same path you've already been down.

Dont leave ... you are/were a SP you great insight into things and still have lots to offer to other SP. I hope that you are at peace with your decison. If not it will come with time. WE LOVE YOU!

Oh Bright... I am so sorry. Please stick around... you will need support, and we need your insight. Cry it out hun and when you are done, cry a little more. We love you!!

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~

Bright....don't leave, honey...support is support...we have all grown to trust each other here...we may not agree, but we support each other...our situations may change...hell any one of us could possibly not be a stepmom tomorrow, but we are still valuable to each other here....let us help u get thru this...sometimes its just nice to know that we have someone to talk to that we don't have to look at...its weird but I think the written word has great healing power......u need us and we need u...u have so much insight to give and u can gain alot from the ladies who have unfortunately walked or are currently walking in yur shoes....please stay...again, we need u as much much as u need us

A mother is not defined by the "b" or the "s" in front of her name, she is defined by how she handles the "mother" part.....

I'm no longer a SM and I'm still here! You women are all great and have gotten me through some HARD times.... had to change my name on here more than once, but I've been around for years.... Whether or not I am a SM.... I have no intention of going anywhere.... and neither should you Bright! We're both going through this at the same time.... we can be there for each other.

I'm sorry you're going through this, BrightSide. Sending you strength and much love.

My condolences, TheBrightSide. I agree with others that you will emerge from this free and relieved. Please stay on ST -- this is a site for ALL people who need support relating to step situations. Your breakup is happening because of a step situation, so you still "belong" with us!

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

I am very sorry to hear this . . . it sounds like you need time to heal, from everything.

But you can still hang with us, and we will help you get through it
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“Learn by practice.” - Martha Graham

Hi Bright...don't start blaming yourself!!! it's easy to think "I" should have done something different, it's "my" fault...but there are 2 of you in a relationship!!! it can't work withoug BOTH partners trying their best. I'm sorry I haven't read all your blogs yet, but I'm still up too and had to respond to your post.

If you are being treated as a second class citizen in your relationship, YOU DIDN'T CAUSE IT. you only have control over how you react to it. If he's "married to his daughter" as your "counselor" put it (really?? a phone conversations?? anyway..) then you are not going to be able to be this man's partner. he's made his choice, please don't feel that you have to "fix" the relationship or else you are a failure. The failure is HIS!!

Dear BrightSide,

I'm new here, and we don't know each other, but I just wanted to write you anyway. I think it's common to feel the fear of loneliness when we either leave a relationship, or get kicked out of one. The thing, though, is you're NOT alone...and I don't mean "you're not the first or the last"...I've heard that crap...I mean, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I came to this site looking for help, and yeah, to vent. I sign on every day and find strength in the ideas shared (even not directly with me), and I leave feeling, yes, stronger, and more prepared for the life I'm leading, no matter where it takes me.

Cry...let it all out. At some point in time, sell, burn and/or break stuff (not the house!). Did a lot of good for me...over a camp fire or a grill. And with everything you burn, let go even more of the situation you are leaving behind you...let the fire cleanse you a little, so you have a good, clean warmth left in your heart when you're done. At some point, you will feel the "hating him for making you feel like this" be outweighted by "I love the way I feel, and it's all thanks to my choices".

And don't leave. Don't choose the loneliness. Let all the women and men who participate here also give you strength, though from afar, and to keep you healthy company.

God bless you,
Erica.