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for a change of tone...Great things about your DH!

herewegoagain's picture

I keep hearing about these horrible ex-husbands...which of course, the witch would probably claim my DH is...but the fact is, that nobody is perfect and I'm still trying to figure out how anyone could be so stupid to not balance things out...

So here is my list of DH's cons:
1. little regard for money/budget
2. a couple of times a month has a bit more to drink than he should (never throws up or anything crazy like that)
3. doesn't like to go out to buy his own clothes
4. he's not into planning vacations, I have to plan them, ie. make reservations, buy tickets, etc.

Here are my DHs PROS!
1. He cooks anytime...doesn't care if I cook or not, doesn't complain...
2. He cleans when he has time...doesn't care if I clean or not, will wake up and just clean if he has the time
3. He irons his own clothes, for work or going out if I haven't done it...no complains...he will even iron mine if needed...
4. He will let me take a nap if I'm feeling tired, depressed, or sick...
5. If we have company over, he'll help me decorate, fix things up, cook, clean, whatever...
6. If I have "girlfriends" over, he'll be the "waiter" and fix us drinks, snacks, etc...and tell us to just relax and have a good time...
7. If I need something from the store, he'll volunteer to go regardless of what it is...underwear, feminine stuff, food, or just a snack attack
8. He is the most caring and sweetest person to everyone in my family...my grandmother (my grandfather before he passed), my nieces, nephews, parents, etc...
9. He comes home from work every single day as soon as he can...if he can work from home instead of the office, he comes home instead
10. He encourages me to "do something for myself", ie. get my hair done, get new clothes, anything so I feel better about myself and look great
11. He NEVER complains about what I spend...his check goes into a joint account and I spend it as I see fit...if I spend it on myself and get him nothing, he is thrilled that I did something for myself
12. Intimately, well, I will NEVER complain Smile he is very giving...
13. If there's a sport's game on, he would love to watch it, but if I have made other plans or have had a rough week with our kiddo, he'd rather just go out with us than watch a game...

So, with all the negative stuff that goes around in our households with the ex's, skids, etc...I though I'd share some of the positive so that all of us can think of all the positive things our DHs bring and therefore, we can all balance the negatives that are brought as BAGGAGE, but not really their fault...

Anyone else want to give it a try?

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herewegoagain's picture

Wink and he's a "latin" guy, you know, the ones that some out there claim are the "macho" ones...hehe...most of the guys I know that grew up with me are so much like him...I don't know why they are viewed as "macho" and chauvinistic?

BMJen's picture

My husband has no con's. Seriously, he's the perfect man. He loves me, takes care of me and mine and our kids, he supports me no matter what, he's perfect. I love him so much and am so thankful to have this man in my life.

My x..........well now...........that's a list of a different color.

herewegoagain's picture

Good for you! What an awesome feeling...and how can someone be so stupid to let them go...hehe...good thing for us... Wink

herewegoagain's picture

By the way, I am just talking about the stuff related to me...but he is a GREAT father to our son...

Snowflake's picture

I am one of those rare woman who can own up to the problems in my old marriage. And I think my ex has owned up to his. I actually think he is a really great father and he is someone who I will always care for. Not in a bad way, but that I really think he isn't a bad person.

My DH probably was a bad husband with his ex. But that is because she is a horrible lying bitch. And I think at the end, he probably was just so fed up that he didn't care what she did or thought. She didn't let him go, but pretty much drove hima away with mean attitude.

Now my DH is a great father to my baby. He checks in on hr all day long, changes all of the poopy diapers, holds her, coos at her, etc.

He is also a very romantic man. He is doing little things for me all of the time. He does everything around the house, cleans, cooks, laundry, etc. He loves to cuddle and hold me. He is just an all around great guy!

herewegoagain's picture

I agree 100%! I can't say my DH was awesome with her, but hey, getting to know just a bit about her, I can't blame him...

on the other hand, I can assure you that even though I have an ex, he will have nothing but nice things to say about me, and I would do the same...because we both realized that it wasn't just one of us, but both of us who didn't make it work...

and btw, I am grateful things didn't work out with my ex, not because he was a bad person, but because we were way to different in our view of life...and my DH and I are so much more aligned (my ex was very racist, didn't like gays, thought money and "a good last name" was all that there was to life)...my DH is a very simple man...who is open to being friends with anyone, as long as they do no harm to others...

Kb3Hooah's picture

Just to list a few

BF always kisses me goodbye and tells me he loves me when he leaves the house, I don't have to ask him to help around the house he just does it, he takes care of me when I'm sick, if he is off of work he will take care of everything so that I have nothing to do when I get home, he helps my children with their homework and takes up time with them, he'll do just about anything I ask (within reason of course, lol).

His cons are.................his Ex Smile

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stepmom008's picture

1. BF cracks me up! He is seriously hysterically funny.
2. We tell each other "I love you" a lot.
3. He cooks, otherwise we'd starve.
4. He fake grumbles when I ask him to do something but he always does it.
5. He sees my point of view for the most part & if he doesn't, he tries to.
6. He says that I'm the only one for him & if for some reason, it doesn't work out, he'd be alone for the rest of his life. Kinda morbid, mostly sweet Smile

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

soverysad's picture

Listing the good things just wouldn't do him justice since I could never remember them all. I couldn't have done better if I had created a husband from scratch. The only problem I have with him (and this isn't his fault) is that he just doesn't understand where my head is right now. He tries and he wants to and he is supportive, but he (nor anyone else) understands my current desperation. Regardless, I am a very lucky lady. He would give his life for me.

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

herewegoagain's picture

There sure are some awesome DHs out there...I think with all the crap that comes along with them, remembering these things always grounds me and makes me realize that what is most important is our relationship...not whether the crazy-witch took us to the cleaners...or complained and complained...or talked about us...

We are all very lucky indeed...

Purpleflower09's picture

My husband has come a long way from where he was.
He is more secure in life and understands what it means to be STABLE and not move around so much and jump from job to job. This comes from me spending COUNTLESS hours talking to him and making him realize that being a gypsy is not the way to live life.

But he is very affectionate, loving, and helps around the house when asked. He's protective and stands up for me. He makes me laugh and he understands me.
" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore

usade's picture

My partner is "my dream"...He looks like a man, acts like a man, sounds like a man, smells like a man...just like my dad (yeah, I was daddy's girl!).

He's got a gi-normous heart
He's super funny
He's got a great singing voice and is progessing well in his guitar (although I'm not the metal type)
He doesn't need me...he wants to be with me
I'm far from perfect, but he tells me that I'm the perfect woman for him