DH's parting words on the phone last night were "Figure it out, someone has to leave," regarding me and an issue with his kids.

He hardly said 2 words to me at all last night when he got home. I did hear him really lay into his kids, but they were both like, "we didn't say that," "She's over-reacting..."

DH even had SS14 come apologize since he was the one that caused the problem. (See previous posts)

So I e-mail DH at his personal account. He doesn't usually check it, but I just had to tell him that we WERE talking tonight. He has to be out of town on business later this week, and I wanted it taken care of before he left. (Honestly thinking that if I needed, I'd find a place for myself and our son,8, over the weekend while he was gone... Even if just to stay with my SIL for a few days...)

So he types back an hour later, about how he loves me, and he doesn't want anyone to leave, he just said it in anger and didn't mean it. He says he's worried about his job situation. (He lost his job in DEcember and this new job is only temporary.) "I just need you to hold me and tell me it'll be okay, I need a safe harbor," he typed.

I found myself wanting to laugh out loud. Like sorry, I didn't mean it, fixes it? Where the hell is my safe harbor...

So I think about it a bit, and on my lunch break I send back and tell him that's fine, but we still need to talk about it, cause I'm done with threats and misused words and disrespect. I also told him not to e-mail be back until after 3pm, when the students are gone, because this had already upset my day...

So 3:15, and I head back from getting students on buses. SD calls and says he boyfriend is coming over, "Dad said it was ok, but you have to be home first;" she wanted to know what time that would be... I told her not to have him arrive before 6pm. (This would give me at least an hour to get BS8 fed and see what messes and grown in my absence...)

I then go back to my classroom and send DH another e-mail asking for the MILLIONTH time not to tell the skids it's okay to have people over without checking with me first. DH doesn't even get home from his temp job which is 2 hours away until after 8pm. Our house is not designed for her boyfriend to be over, because then they take up the living room and no one else can watch TV or do anything in there... (She always smirks and suggests they be allowed to watch TV in her room- over my dead, cold body...)

So I finish work, my car pool ride gets me and BS8 back to town and to my car, and I pull into my drive at 5:25. I see other car lights coming down the gravel road, and I think, if that's her boyfriend, I will come someone. It wasn't. Thank goodness.

So I reach down for my purse, and look up and see another set of lights in rearview mirror. It's the boyfriend. It's 5:26. $%^& I told SD NOT BEFORE 6!!!

I text DH that I AM NOT HAPPY and will sit in car to cool off before going in. I'm kinda hoping SD will come out and ask me why I'm sitting in the car. I'd like to rip her head off...

I realize I'm not going to cool off anytime soon, so I head inside. The boyfriend and SD are already cuddled up on couch. The kid's only been in the house like 2 minutes! His impeccable manners as he greets me gets on my nerves and reminds me of Eddie Haskell... She doesn't even speak... Probably a wise choice.

I greet SS14 in the kitchen, who is making a mess everywhere as he cooks. BS8 follows me in my room and falls back asleep on my bed. I lock the bedroom door and run bathwater. A bubble bath and a good book are the only things that will kill my anger. I text DH that I am angry and hiding, but he would be happy to know I did not speak to anyone, and wasn't planning to either.

So about 30 minutes into my reprieve, there's a knock on the door. I panic, cause I knew I'd locked the bedroom door. DH announces his arrival, and comes in with a soda for me. (My special treat I love, but he hates to get.)

I thank him and he leaves. I read some more, and only emerge when water starts to get cold. In kitchen DH asks why I'm mad. I know he didn't get the email about me being mad if he left work early, but he had the texts. He says SD called him at 5:00 and asked if her boyfriend could come over, and he told her he'd be home early by 5:30, so that was fine. I just look at him and growl. I tell him SD had called me at 3:15, and I told her not to have him over before 6...

He has the nerve to then tell me it's not that big of a deal, we're both home now, and it wasn't like the boy was already in the house when I got home.

Is the man really that clueless? I told him the only thing that kept me from digging a six foot hole in the back yard tonight was the fact he brought me a soda...

So, he doesn't want me to leave, but he can't respect my wishes (ie: don't let kids make plans without me knowing), and skids don't respect wishes (ie: daughter has my answer, but doesn't like it so calls dad for the answer she wants.)

It's never going to get better, is it?