BM taking DH back to court again........ Now child support
Well just a little background..... BM has taking DH to court for child support 7 times over the last 3 years for more child support....
AND a couple times over custody and visitation.... She has basically lost each case she has filed or they have been dismissed. DH has been awarded more time (each time they went to court - he filed 2 times in the past 6 years) and agreed to pay the higher amount of child support when the judge noted a decrease
Well, since this last 2 court cases.... BM was denied and told not to come back to court for 3 years as her review was found to be not warranted - DH has not had a 15% increase in income since 2004 - as a matter of fact he had a decrease in income..... (That was child support court) So BM tried in clerk of court to have the child support raised and custody taken. She lost that case as well... Child support remained the same, and DH got more time and more holidays as a result of our proof of alienation.
DH received a letter Friday through Division of Child Support Enforcement for another review of the case - after the judge told her in October not to come back for three years. we have the court ordered showing this.
Of course we are thinking it is because SD spent Thanksgiving with us this year - because the new court order mandated it to be so. She was very upset about that - and that instead of letting SD wear the too small clothes she sends - we bought clothes that fit and keep them here - and we had the lawyer tell her to send each and every one of SD's prescriptions each time she comes....
Now she is lashing out again..... It is nuts. I guess she will be even more upset when the case worker - a new one of course - gets a copy of the court order and transcript highlighted stating that BM's three year review was denied and she was told she could not come back until Oct 2011 for any type of review or increase.
Just silly!
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Wow, she's thick-headed,
Wow, she's thick-headed, huh? I hope that every time this goes to court, she has to pay and fees and fines. Just go with it. She's making herself to look like an ass, and if it were me, I'd love to be there to laugh at it. She's only hurting herself.
On an average my DH goes to
On an average my DH goes to court about 6 times a year.We receive lawyers paperwork all the time. Yesterday,Skid got the mail & sure enuf there was another court paper in the mail. Lots of back & forth to court for everything.Threats of going to court if everything doesnt go BM way. Mediation has happened this year too. Really, it never ends. One thing I notice is that skids have no winter coats & no new shoes for everyday...until MIL buys them for XMAS.BM has the advantage to run to court anytime since her family & BF pay the lawyer bills.She makes below the poverty level wages...only a few more years of it tho.
Lauren - If you look back in
Lauren - If you look back in my blogs you will see BM is really ignorant and gets so angry she does not think twice about her actions. Over the past 6 years since SD was born (of course before I came on the scene) BM has blocked visitation by written letters to the daycare - direct violation of the court order. She has written letter to DH given wrong medication information. She has sent emails outlining things against court order. She had two lawyers drop her cases due to her lying - those letters were also sent to DH since he was representing himself. She has filed a false protective order that was dismissed due to evidence DH had. She wrote up a counseling intake form with lies on it, and then the counselor notes then noted how she was attempting to alienate SD from DH and myself and that she was lying..... it has been a never ending cycle with her.
She feels that anything she writes make it official because although they have joint custody - SD lives with her. She really makes it easy to document each and everything she does. Like now - she had been sending too small clothing for SD and not sending her asthma medication. SO we kept all the too small clothes, took pictures of SD in them and had the lawyer document the fact that BM is not sending the medication.
She just gets so upset, that instead of calling, she goes ballistic and does drastic things that are lies and really have no merit... Especially like the affidavit she filed last march... claiming I abused SD so badly she should not come for visitation in VA, and DH should have to pay more child support - basically because judge made her drive half way and was considering giving DH 6 weeks summer visitation.
She is just jealous - and it eats her up like cancer.....
Like now - since SD came for her first thanksgiving ever with her father (she is 6 years old)... BM is upset. It does not help that I went out and purchased SD enough clothing for our house to not have to wear the too small things her mom sends... and the lawyer spoke with her lawyer and told her to send all meds prescribed to SD each time she comes.......
SO now she has filed another court case..... I guess since the new court order was written to include alienation - she only can go this route - child support court - she does not care they told her three years or not. She is just so mad and jealous all that goes out the window. WHEN DH called and inquired about it... she told DH someone else must have filed it since she would never go down there and file that case. Yeah, after you took him to court three times in 2008 for child support and 2 times in 2009 for child support and visitation.
She is the idiot of the year.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
Question, so a BM sending
Question, so a BM sending her kid in clothing and shoes that don't fit is okay to present in court, bc son came home is rain boots no shoes inside and they are so big he can kick them off! Had no idea new to all of this. No little ones of my own. I just know it is December and cold that made me mad enough.
No, i realizing it will
No, i realizing it will never end with BM..... She will always be looking for an opportunity to act foolish. It is in her nature.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
Wow! Wonder if your SD is
Wow! Wonder if your SD is noticing all the crap that BM is feeding your DH? If so, does she say anything to you or her BF about it?
My nephew, at age 6, declared to his grandmother (my mom), "I need to get after my mommy. She's lying again." My mother was FLOORED that a 6 year old child was that perceptive!!
~*~A Good Mommy will let the kids lick the beaters. A GREAT Mommy will turn the mixer off first!~*~
Oh my...I thought ours was
Oh my...I thought ours was bad...although ours always threatened and now pretty much knows we have figured our her DH doesn't pay his cs and we have told her if she takes DH to court again, to take her DH cause we'll be providing his info to the CSE office while she's there...hmmm...witch...
These women are out of control...someday it will be over...
StepMomtoChed - Yeah SD
StepMomtoChed - Yeah SD realizes it. She has told us over and over again - she tries to tell her mommi the truth but she doesn't believe her..... She even tells us her Gramma is the same way.
They have these conversations with my 6SD because they think it will taint her judgement of us. It really only makes them look bad.
And to top it off - SD attends a Christian private school - so they are also teaching her the differences between right and wrong and lying. I just really feel bad for SD - cause she is being victimized by her own mother.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
That is sad that your SD has
That is sad that your SD has to go through this, but like you say the bright side is that she attends a Christian private school...The way i see it is that she learns about how GOD can protect her from the devil in class and then her real life lab exercise is at home in enforcing what she just learned...LOL, since her mom is in the role of the devil...i bet your DH is pulling his hair out over this mess, it has to be heart wrenching to have to deal with her non sense....make sure you two support each other because her goal is to break you up
Misery - You got it.... My
Misery - You got it.... My little SD is in a spiritual battle....
What she learns at school, what she experiences here - and then the battle with her mom.........
It is just sad. It is heart wrenching to see and know that little girl is living it.
I pray daily for SD to be protected, that BM's heart and mind be touched and cleared of jealousy, envy and hatred and the Grams too.
Geez!
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
It is really sad, i think
It is really sad, i think that these moms dont understand the effects of their actions on there kids and because of jeoulousy and envy they will stop at nothing....i know you have an uphill battle...how is your DH dealing with this monster, it has to be a nightmare on him....my DH tried to be hard and deal with it alone and he couldnt hold back his emotions at times, it has to be hard to because all they want to do is love there kids....
Its hard on him - one can
Its hard on him - one can only imagine who she hates him so much or that she isso jealous of him - when she left him and the relatinship while pregnant she told him she wanted a different life etc... - He can not understand why she would take these types of things out on the child.
It is so bewildering - this BM really must have mental issues if you as me. Plus she decided to leave him almost 7 years ago - so why is she still so jealous and upset.... it is crazy.
********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************
Internet sister, reading
Internet sister, reading these blogs all day make me just want to snuggle up with DH even more, i mean i always wondered if i would be that bitter or jealous if my DH and I split and i first pray that we dont split and then i pray that i will never do my child like that...ima you need to change your name to imaSuprWoman, we SM's go through a lot and i must admit (never to my DH) that at times i have made it hard on him because i want him to kick her ass, but if i really was in my DH position i would probably be an emotional wreck....Thanks girl, your strength and blogs are encouraging more than you know.....i think that we need more love in the world.....well lets make a pack not to be woman that lose our men behind these crazy BM's, lets love them tonight...Love and Peace always....i hope this site gets the chat option