His ex is obsessed with him

My husbands ex constantly talks to me about their past. Tells me things like, oh did you know art asked me to marry him when we were dating? Oh yeah did you know art was my first? Or things about my inlaws such as, oh I love my cecey (my mother in laws name is cecilia) and she will always be my only mother in law. When my mother in law hated her. My latest thing is my sister in law let me neice go over to her house this weekend to stay with my SD. I feel betrayed by my SIL. My neice can come over to our house whenever she wants and I just feel that was unneccisary. And of course the BM couldnt wait to let me know, she emailed me saying how much fun she had at her house and how she stayed so late. I just feel like she knows how to push my buttons. And she does. I asked my husband to address how I feel about this to his sister and he told me its not a big deal. I know we cant stop her from going over there but I just want her to know that it makes me feel uncomfortable. My husband refuses to say anything so im hurt with him. What do you think?

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Why are you conversating

Why are you conversating with BM? You need to disengage from her. I know that curiousity probably gets the best of you and you can't quite let go b/c you are on one hand eager to see what else she has to say, but I'm telling you, the best thing for you, your DH, and your relationship together is to cut contact from her.

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”

This is annoying, and unfair

This is annoying, and unfair to you, but comes with the territory. Blended families come with baggage. Some baggage is more annoying than others. Sometimes in these situations you have have to deal with the ex being in the picture. You don't have to friends with her though, or even talk to her at all. It seems like she's either being really manipulative by pretending to be friends with you, or she genuinely wants to be friends (which is weird). If you don't want to be friends with her, which is understandable, don't reply to the emails and don't return her phone calls. Unless she wants to discuss something about your SD, the two of you don't need to have a relationship. If your ex can't understand why her inappropriate comments about him hurt you, then that's worth discussing with him. The other stuff though, like her chit chat, I would ignore.

I agree Chai, but it doesn't

I agree Chai, but it doesn't appear to me that BM truly wants to be "friends". If she did, she would respect boundary topics, and discussing her past with DH is one of them. She knows better. She's doing it because she KNOWS it gets under your skin. This isn't a genuine friendship, she is being manipulative.

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”

Another note, she may not be

Another note, she may not be obsessed with your DH per say. She may be obsessed with trying to one up you.

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”

I think that this is what

I think that this is what her thing is. She probably doesn't even care about DH anymore, but she wants to get under your skin and cause problems with you.

"Anyway if you insist on

"Anyway if you insist on talking with this women just start telling her stuff she would hate to hear. Like DH made me cum SO hard last night!"

Good one Druzilla! }:) lol

You are wonderfully evil. That actually made me laugh out loud. Not a bad idea either. I'll bet that would put a stop to her wanting to talk about their past.

LOL...I must've missed that!

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”

Stepping hit it on the

Stepping hit it on the head..... BM wants you and your husband to be miserable and unhappy - like she is on the inside.

Ignore her.. Stop talking to her, Don't read her emails, Screw her......

Don't communicate with her - Take her avenue to get under your skin.

********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************

O I have a good one! When I

O I have a good one! When I first started dating DH and EX-zilla found out she sends a box of photos over for my DH supposedly his share of kids growing up etc. and guess what? not only several lingirie(sp?) but nude photos of him and her YUP she sent me their old home made porn photos! I am so glad the boys didn't open that envelope they were 6 and 8 for god's sake!. I quickly put all the photos in an envelope and delivered them right back to her house, just the one's of her and I said OH MY GOD I am so glad I caught theses I am sure you wouldn't want these seen by anyone , I am glad I could save you such embarassment,Then I winked and said who knows if someone might post these on the internet. She turned green and that was the last time that happened!