So DH/BM & Guardian are at this meeting - BM sits down and says she agrees to our original proposal for custody which consists of:

SS every weekend
All holidays
all summer
full or joint custody
NO CHILD SUPPORT
DH picks up
BM picks up from our house on Sundays

Everyone at the table was shocked that BM is agreeing to anything, but DH calmly says- Oh believe me, as soon as this proposal is to be court ordered, BM will decide against everything.

Guess what BM had a problem with though?
The fact that she did not want SS around me while DH wasn't home..
That got SHUT DOWN with a quickness as DH and the guardian informed BM that I am DH's wife and not only has SS been alone with me for the past almost 2 years, but why does BM have no problem with her boyfriends being around SS alone etc as they are just "shack-ups" and not her spouse-
She quickly shut her mouth-

Then BM showed her true colors, smacking a cup off the table onto the floor and telling the guardian this:

"I don't care who you think you are!, I'm a mother, and DH is only doing this, cuz he's still soft on me, he still wants this, but he's got someone in his ear right now.. and I left him, he didn't leave me!, you can't tell me that I gotta let some stranger be around my child, you can't do that!"

DH says, she threw a fit like this about 3 good times, which was perfect, our lawyer wanted the guardian to see first hand just how she acts- It was priceless DH said..

So DH has a child-support hearing to re-visit the amount he pays, in a few weeks- the guardian says that he can now present the joint custody paperwork to them once he has it and BM's agreement to NO CHILD SUPPORT, We'll see how it goes.. I am in awe about the no child support, I just kept asking DH over and over... SHE AGREED TO THAT? ARE YOU SURE?!

Everything now has to be written up and if she doesn't go back on everything, no court date at the end of Sept.- It will all be court ordered.

Also BM appears to have SS in a school to help him with his speech and other delays apparently, although BM has been hiding this fact from us and had us thinking SS was in daycare only-

DH will soon have every right that BM does to his son and I can't wait!
I'm not sure if we'll get the full custody without going to court though..

Does anyone else have joint custody with no support paid to BM?