I think FH is getting it. After almost three years together, three years of drama and fights and arguments and tears, he finally understands. Our relationship is stronger than it ever was. We are both dedicating time to our relationship, FH is making time for us to develop as a couple. I'm actually happy girls.

I work Sundays, and for the past few weeks, I've come home to a clean house. Laundry is done, bed is made, ktichen is clean, house is vacuumed. He's running baths for me, brings me coffee in the morning while I'm getting ready for work...Hugs and kisses and back rubs. Flowers delivered to my work...I looked at him last night after we got back from dropping the kids off and he had finished wiping the counters down and told him that he is a wonderful man. The look he gave me was.....priceless. He told me that seeing me smile and happy is all he wants in his day, and if doing something little like that will make it happen, he'll never stop.

Everything with GEM is working out. Papers were filed last week amending custody, all our demands were met, no CS will be exchanged. FH is establishing boundaries and putting GEM in her place. Issues with the children are handled by both of us. He supports me in every decision I make, and asks me before making any on his own.

We've finally found our balance.

It may seem like three years is too long to fight for some, or not long enough to others. This message is to let others know that there is hope. There have been a few times that I have considered walking away, but I persevered, and am glad that I did. This is the man that I fell in love with, this is the man that I want to be with. This is the man that I respect and choose to spend my life with. He wasn't always this way, but whatever happened to make him this way now, I am thankful for it.

There is hope.