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Random ?- Life insurance- would you give some $ to adult skids?
I have a will.
DH does not. But he doesnt own any assets, have custody of any minor children, etc that he would really need one.
We both have life insurance plans. I have mine through my work. I have enough to cover funeral costs, pay off the house and then additional funds to go to my sister for the care of my BS (who is a minor). Also some extra funds for DH.
DH goes through an insurance broker. So costs are a little higher. He has enough to cover funeral, pay off the house and a little extra.
I asked DH what he wanted me to do about the skids...
DH and I have been having issues.
I hold on to a lot of resentment towards him and the skids.
I feel that I have tried and tried and tried. That being a SM has turned me into an angry person, I dont like the way I feel about the skids and even my own husband at times...The way I am now... is not who I am.
BUT I am always up for trying something new... I am always up for things getting better. I am disengaged but I will make an attempt to salvage my marriage.
So I ask DH last night "What can I do regarding your kids to make things better?"
As if things cant go any worse....
Seriously just got a text from DH (that he actually sent 2 hours ago) that he got FIRED! UGGGHHHH
He started a new job about a month ago. HVAC. He has older HVAC experience, not newer. So they hired him knowing this and that they would train him. Which they have half done....
So they said they didnt want to lead him on that after 90 days they were going to give him a pay raise (which was promised) that they would actually give him a pay cut by like $6......
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"Hate" for skids, stronger then love for DH- possible divorce?
This may be long.
I am looking for advice and support. Please dont criticize on things that are already as they are.
I also dont want to get a divorce for many reasons... so that is not what I want the end result to be.
DH and I have been married 10 months.
When DH and I first got together, everyone got along. Once we got engaged, we moved in together, I bought a house that we live in, etc that is when things started to go bad with the skids.
DH acting like an a$$ in front of YSD- really???
Just venting...
DH leaves this morning to go do 2 side jobs and then said something about taking YSD out to eat. This is how his visitation goes with her which is fine and dandy so I dont have to see her.
So I drop BS9 off with a friend for a scheduled play date. Run some errands. Come home eat a late lunch and doze off on the couch. I swear I am asleep for only 5 minutes.
All of a sudden DH comes busting in the door with YSD and a friend that he was suppose to do a side job with.
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Skids the way they are- because of BM, SO, COD, etc
Why do you think your skids act the way they do? The negative behaviors?
Does this come from the skids being children of divorce? Or the skid never being in an intact family? Being born out of wedlock? Born out of a one night stand?
Crazy BM? Lazy BM? PAS BM?
SO who doesn't want to parent? SO who is a pushover?
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Someone's SS is at my house right now.....
Oh it's DH's SS- my BS.
BS9 is laying in bed playing on his Kindle. He is hungry. He would like a bowl of cereal.
Earlier I was in the kitchen and I asked him if he wanted a bowl of cereal, I was going to make it as I was making my own and he said no.
15 minutes pass and NOW he wants cereal, so he asks me to make it. NOPE.
Ensure the meltdown.
"Please you are closer"
"Why can't you do it, I am sooooo tired"
"I'm so hungry, mom please"
"Mom"
"Mom"
"Oh my god I am so hungry"
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Skids same age/different age as Bios- issues? Like it or hate it?
My BS was a few months shy of turning 6 when DH and I met. His kids were 12, 15, 17, 18.
I sometimes wonder if things would have been easier if he had kids my BS age.
I KNOW small kids. I dont know how to deal with teenagers and all their crap. And man teenagers these days are not like how I was growing up.
I was no angel and lived quite the life in my teens and early 20s but I had respect and morals and a work ethic.
I was 29 when DH and I started dating. I felt very odd seeing his kids as "kids" and myself as the "adult" because of the ages of his kids.
Blended Families- the wedding- rings for skids too?
I have been watching a lot of Four Weddings lately. It's on TLC.
The ones I had DVRd and watched yesterday, the ones with blended families, I think all of them gave rings to the skids as part of the ceremony to tie them together as a family.
Seriously the bride/groom would exchange rings, then the groom would give his new skids a ring and put it on their finger and the SM would do the same.
WTH.....
Why does it always have to be about the skids??????? LOL!
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Which is worse????
Thinking about my SDs.
I was talking about them to a friend of mine, I hadn't talked to in awhile and she wanted an update on the step situation.
So I was going into it and I was explaining about YSD15 and MSD18.
I described it as this:
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