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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 12/18/2014 - 2:23pm

So the Xmas Eve dinner plan is set. Sad I know... I know... I suggested it but I thought that DH would forget to invite his kids or wait last minute or it would fall through. Technically, I still have time Smile The more I think about it, and as much as I want to have dinner with my DH on Xmas Eve, I am actually okay with NOT having dinner with him now. Ha Ha. I think I had a lapse in judgement, and then I remembered all the reasons WHY I cant stand being around the skids.

So we are all set to have dinner at a nice resturant on Xmas Eve. Honestly looking at the menu again, I cant imagine what the skids would even order. I think its a little "above" them.

I told DH to make sure they are dressed appropiately.

I asked DH what he is getting his kids for Xmas. The usual gift card? He said yes and maybe a small gift. If he follows through with the small gift- he will probably wait till last minute. I asked him what about his grandson? He said I dont know....

I asked if he is sending OSD anything. He said no. This actually makes me giggle a little bit. She rarely calls DH and if she does its because she wants something from him. She comes into town and blows him off or doesnt even make plans to meet up with him. It was ME last year that made sure she got a gift card and her baby got a gift. Since I am not doing anything for DH for the skids for Xmas, she is S.O.L.

The past 2 years, even though things have been crappy crappy with the skids(MSD, YSD, SS) they have always gotten me a present. Something small. MSD usually picks it out and wraps it and signs it "Your step kids". Its so awkward when DH brings it to me. All smiles. Like seeeeee my kids do like you. I'm thinking... they steal from me, lie about me, talk shit about me and act very RUDE to me any other day... not even sure why they want to give me a gift. I dont trust their intentions honestly. But I do act with appreciation and always make sure to tell them thank you. This year is the worse year relationship wise, so I am hopping they skip out of this fake gift giving. Save their money.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 12/18/2014 - 2:34pm

Maybe 3 years back when things were good with all of us, I did get the skids a gift from me and BS.

Then 2 years ago, I didnt get them anything. DH asked me to pick up some stuff and do like I did last year (I made really cute baskets that they did really love) and he would pay for it. (He knew I wasnt buying them anything)I told him NO! I wasnt even going to help him out.

Last year, I had a moment of weakness that was also a moment of being controlling. I found a HUGE sale at Old Navy and bought the skids and GBs some stuff but made DH pay me back and I charged "interest" Wink I bought the skids stuff that they would like, but they were expecting money, so I was being a little bitchy honestly. DH wasnt going to send anything to OSD and her DH and baby. DH had won a basket with gift cards from his work, so I sent one to OSD along with the stuff I had picked out for her baby.

This year I am back to doing nothing. And it will most likely be this way moving forward every year.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 12/18/2014 - 2:36pm

Just realize I read this wrong... LOL... I read it as you would die if DH made you buy the skids something...LOL...

I dont think DH makes the skids buy me something. I think they do it on their own. MSD. I dont know why though because we dont like each other. Our feelings for each other are mutual. I think MSD does it to me manipulative honestly. Its REALLY awkward. Even more awkward then when a friend buys you something and you didnt buy them something. LOL.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Thu, 12/18/2014 - 4:02pm

"It's so awkward when DH brings it to me. All smiles. Like seeeeee my kids do like you. I'm thinking... they steal from me, lie about me, talk shit about me and act very RUDE to me any other day... not even sure why they want to give me a gift."

This, so much. The whole scenario is bizarre, isn't it? We are expected to participate in a their farcical fantasy. Where else IRL would you be expected to accept abuse, defamation, and robbery with complete gratitude? It's insanity!