SD11 chokes SD6 - What do I do?
On Tuesday of last week, my two SDs where in the back of the vehicle, fighting over a hat. SD11 took SD6 hat and tore it apart, she started to scream and cry. I stopped the vehicle and took SD11 hat off her head and threw it in the trash. Got back in the car and started driving. SD11 went into a complete RAGE. Screaming and yelling, kicking the back of the seat and hitting her fist on the ceiling of the car. Then, as if that wasn't out of control...she CHOKE SD6 with such angry and force that SD6 had marks on her neck after 15 minutes. Then SD11 started in on hair pulling, kicking, biting, scratching, etc. SD6. All this time I am driving and at red lights, etc. I got so scared and didn't know what to do! I told SD6 to move to the front seats floorboard.
SD11 continued to be completely out of control as I drove home 15 minute drive. SD6 was totally frightened.
My question is, should I have called 911? Should I know call child protective services?
Their BM does not seem to care. This is not the only abuse SD11 does to SD6. She kicks her, pinches her, pulls her hair, slaps her, scratches her, calls her stupid, and on and on and on. This is a daily pattern, from morning to night. I once watched SD11 get out of bed, walk over to SD6 and slap her in the face for no reason at all and then deny she did it.
SD11 has also hit my fiance, scratched him, bite him, kicked him and tore his tank right off his back. He didn't do anything to her. I wanted to call 911 and have her arrested or something. SD11 is an abusive little person! I can't stand it anymore! Need some really really good advise.
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I think I would have stopped
I think I would have stopped the car, drug her out and blistered her ass with a belt.
But since you propably don't want to go to jail ..... yep, you should haved called 911 and had CPS drag SD-11 off for a week or two in a group home. I would call 911 every time she pulls this crap.
At 11 she is old enough to know that that shit won't fly and to feel the consequences of her actions.
IMHO.
Best regards.
Well, as tempting as it is to
Well, as tempting as it is to "take matters into my own hands" I refuse to be at her level. It has bothered me since it occurred and it's the second time I have seen her this out of control. To make matters worse, she denied doing it, so it made me feel like there is a serious mental or emotional issue or both with this child. She is just evil! It hurts my heart to think that SD6 is being abused by her sister. I know in my heart that I can not ever watch that again and I will not put up with it anymore...there is something seriously wrong with this SD11. :?
Do you have a police officer
Do you have a police officer friend? If so, i would have him/her come over & have a little talk with SD11. Scare her a little.
Shocking! And it really
Shocking! And it really shouldn't be your resonsibility to deal with this. Can't the BM or father discipline her appropriately? You're in a lose lose situation. If you ignore it it's reinforcing it, if you call 911 you will likely get blamed by bio parents for over reacting. I would seriously force the bio parents to address the issue or can't you speak to her teacher at school? Have they seen anything like that behaviour at school, what would they recommend?
Btw I don't know if this is appropriate in the US, I'm in the UK. :?
I couldn't agree with you
I couldn't agree with you more Vicksteria - that is the reason why I hestitated in calling 911 when it happened. I felt I would be placed in a very compromising position and would open up a can of worms.
TO answer your question, no the BM is a twit! The child has serious problems that need to be addressed.
I'd take her on a little
I'd take her on a little field trip...
to the WOODSHED!
The dad, my finance is a good
The dad, my finance is a good man...and I am not protecting or making this up...he really is. He doesn't know what to do. He is very very concerned. He is as proplexed about this situation as I am. The only one who doesn't seem to care is the BM. She seeks to blame me!
We only spend two weekends a month with them...not enough to have a huge impact on the behavior of the child. The BM is a crazy, selfish and "it's all about me" type of person. Not that I am one-sided on this, because it took me a while to come to the determination that BM is all that people have said.
I however, am not concerned about the BM I am concerned about the child abuser and the child that is being abused. I have not hit her...and I dont expect to...that is why I am looking for a soluation for this before it's too late for everyone.
I am so worried and so upset, words can not express it.