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Submitted by young but wise on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 5:35pm

One of my biggest problems with the world today is hypocrisy! I honestly can't just sit here and let every one yell at one another over who should post what and who should comment. All i hear about is how people have the right to express their opinion on here and how it is their right to freedom of speech! I hear about how if someone doesn't like a post or a comment how they should just not read it. Why is it then, that when someone, like myself, posts something that is nothing but nice and trying to provide conductive criticism, those same people comment on my post telling me that i should not be posting about it? I never once asked anybody to not comment on my posts. I never said i didn't want to read them. I simply said that i only wanted to be judged/given advise based on the facts that i have laid out. I don't want yells judgment based off of what someone concluded on their own. I also don't want advise on a topic i never asked advise on. Why is it that i am getting torn apart for posting something not even 48 hours after you you're apart others for doing the same thing?

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Submitted by baseballmami on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 6:01pm

Bullies are bullies for a reason and that's because they are unhappy with themselves!! You just keep doing you and venting about whatever it is you need to vent about!!! Don't let haters piss you off! Wink

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Submitted by Hanny on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 6:32pm

Young But Wise - Maybe you need to say right up front...Venting...or Would Like Advice. That way we will know if you want our opinions or just want to vent. Personally, I don't vent on here, when I blog it is because I want other's opinions. I do think if you post on here most people think you want their comments, ideas, suggestions, opinions.

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Submitted by young but wise on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 6:57pm

1. I did put vent in the title

2. I do want comments, opinions, and advise... A long as it is not based off of false information and it is about the topic at hand and not turned into something more like my vows or where i choose to eat Easter brunch.

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Submitted by stepmomto3bioto1 on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 8:34pm

I second that Amen!!

Hang in there girl! There are plenty of us here who Do genuinely care! Dont let the bad apples put a nasty taste in your mouth about this site!!! Ive said it many times on here- this place has saved my sanity & my marriage in several ways.

Let go of the toxic that has happened & realize that we are not all enemies here. We have enough of that shit in our steplives!! Ignore the haters & delete their crap from your blogs when they try their bullying-aka "constructive advice"!!

Thats what I pledge to do! I WONT let the nasty ones run me off!! I offer advice in a non theeatening tone when I respond to posters. I add insight or my own issues that relate to let the poster know they are not alone in all this steplife. I value opinions & the MANY great people I have met here!!!

The good still outweighs the bad!!

Hang in there!! Stay!!

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Submitted by doll faced sm on Wed, 04/03/2013 - 6:50am

I'll see this ,and raise you a:

Ever heard that song "If if Makes You Happy?" I try to view everything here with those lenses. I used to be one who was quick to tell someone to leave the relationship based on what was written. The thing is, what is written is only a snap-shot of that person's life. Some people come on here with brags and positive updates, a lot of people post vents, but nobody writes here at the end of each day what their mundane, day-to-day life is like w/ their SO. If all you see are the lows, of course you're going to have a poor opinion of that person's SO. The thing is, if it was really that bad, those same posters would probably *NOT* be in those situations. And when they get that bad, most people leave. I've seen numerous posts of just this type of thing.

Having said that, a lot of people will not try to run what you write through that same logic filter. Instead, they will not only allow themselves the poor view of your relationship/situation, but they will also let their imaginations run wild with what other horrible things simply must be occurring in your home. Try to tune those people out. We're not allowed to just outright call them trolls; name calling is against the user agreement. So, instead, I will say there are people here who gleefully go trolling each day and contribute little or nothing more to the board than that.

Anyway, chin up, sweety!