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Confessions of a neglected fiance

Yosemite's picture

My FDH and I are very busy. So it is really hard to find time for all the wedding planning that is needed. Somehow BM has a sixth sense and is always calling when we are out. FDH answers because he thinks it might be his son, but it's ususally not and then they are chatting while we are trying to do our business.
I got sick of this so I did something I probably shouldn't have. I rigged FDH's phone so that I can block and unblock her remotely from my phone. His phone doesn't even ring, LOL.

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Yosemite's picture

Basically it's remote administration. I could do a lot more than block BM if I chose to. While FDH has a smartphone, he is in the dark ages with technology and he will never notice.

isthisforme123's picture

Huh. I guess I am also in the technological dark ages. Is there a way to direct all BMs calls straight to voicemail? That I'd be interested in. }:)

Anon2009's picture

I know you may disagree with this but I think you/FDH should just let her go over to voicemail in case, God forbid, there is some true emergency involving SS.

Yosemite's picture

If it were a true emergency and she can't get ahold of FDH, she will start calling everyone else like me and his relatives.

Yosemite's picture

We have been together over 5 years. FDH is pretty good in the way he handles her, but he will always answer her calls "in case it's SS10". This was just wearing on me. I feel a little guilty but it's making me crazy that I can't get just a little undivided attention.

hereiam's picture

People (your FDH) really need to learn cell phone etiquette. Answering the phone, no matter where you are, no matter who you are with, no matter what you are doing, is RUDE.

simifan's picture

Wow! If this is your solution now -I think you need to rethink marriage completely. If DH did this to me it would be a deal breaker. You are wrong, untrusting, and deceitful.

Yosemite's picture

Ummm kay. While I think this is a little dramatic, I do appreciate the honest feedback. I probably will eventually return his phone to normal because I feel a little bit guilty, however, I do not think that FDH would freak out if I told him. He'd most likely roll his eyes, tell me to fix it and then later admit he was impressed with my technical skills. After all SS10 has his own phone, BM just usually takes it from him and makes him use hers.

OtterWater1's picture

Then tell him.
I'm with simifan.
If I found out DH f*cked with my stuff like this, we'd be through. This is just so rude and disrespectful to do to the man you *intend* on marrying.

Yosemite's picture

Good thing my FDH doesn't think like you guys! Of course if he did, I probably would never have done it. Everyone has different boundaries. But I really appeciate you sharing your viewpoint because it gets me thinking and seeing things from a different perspective.

20YearsAsAStep-Mom's picture

The second he finds out it is not SS calling he needs, to end the call immediately, hang up on her if she won't let him go. This is crazy that you had to go to such extreme measures. I would probably rethink my plans to wed this spineless man.

whatwasithinkin's picture

love this