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My fiance had a picture of him, the BM and my SD on his keychain and I made him throw it out. More because everytime I saw it I thought of our massive court battle thats no where near finished, then because of jealousy but I can't lie, there was jealousy there.

Yuck. I agree with you. But I'm not a very sentimental person, and also, when I'm done with something, I'm DONE! When I got divorced, I threw away all the wedding photos, sold my wedding dress, sold my wedding ring, and kept only the wedding video, because I realized it was the only video I had of my deceased father.

Yuck again. Frankly, I'm guessing the SDs won't really want them, anyway, but hey, it's your husband's wish, so whatever.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

Personally, I evict anything of their past that makes its way into our home (well...except SD...lol). If BM wants to give SD sentimental reminders of the "beautiful,timeless union" she had with my husband than she can go right ahead and junk up her own house with that sh*t.

Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. ~Buddha

We have that same box in the basement. I don't think about it though. It is creepy but I just have to remind myself that there was life before me, lol. I have pics of ex boyfriends boxed up in the basement, so I really can't complain, lol.

I wouldnt like that. But then again, im kind of self-centered like that. Im the only woman in OUR house that needs to be a wedding memory... but thats just me. Im jealous like that I guess. We have nothing of BMs at our house. She once gave us a pic of SS on halloween with him hugging her, and my DH put it in his room, and I felt odd having it sitting there, this woman that has made me grow to dislike her by making our lives miseable, has a frame in our home... so I magnified my SS, and took her out of it.

As for you, maybe because im on the other side of this, I dont get it. The wedding video,I can TRY to understand, but then again, its something that didnt last, and i would think the kids would grow to dislike me more if they saw the days that their parents were happy, like I took that from them... but thats the SM view.
As being the kid, I dont know, I was from a home that had both my parents, so I dont know what its like to come from a broken home and never see your parents be affectionate toward each other. Maybe Skids need to see that at one point there was love? who knows...
I guess i have a biased view on this so dont take my word for anything...
I have bitterness toward my BM because shes made it too easy for me to dislike her, so I would have burned a wedding tape just like I made him throw out all of the pics he had of them when they were together (he never married her so there was no wedding stuff). It also makes me feel like he wants to keep those memories... and Id ask myself- for what? Does he want to go back to that time?

like i said... thats me being biased...

DH had a TON of "family" pictures (I moved into the "family"home. I really think if this isn't must after divorce it SHOULDN'T happen) in a drawer in our dinning room. I begged him, and begged him to move them. almost two years went by, and finally I threw a FIT and he boxed them up and put them in SD's closet. He also has videos that he holds on to because his mother, who has passed away is on them. I HATE that he has this videos. WHY? Because I watched one and it is he is mouthing to BM "I want to F--- You". That's right! Makes me want to puke even thinking about it. I also found letters and poems he wrote to/about her AFTER they separated. He WILL not even attempt to write anything longer then a text to me. It has cause a huge amount of jealousy, and he just doesn't get it. My jealously comes from other things as well. Like I was sick as hell once when we first got together, and instead of seeing if I needed anything... he stopped and bought her CAT flea medication. Like, that he told me he once had a dream that he let her move back in while I was at work one day. He doesn't understand WHY I am jealous though..

Ok, sorry for going on and on in your blog, just brought up a LOT of painful memories.

I really don't care that he keeps the pictures for the girls, but they should be boxed up and put far, far away!!

"I will not take responsibility, where I do not have authority." ~ MeanOleMe

I would want it given to the children NOW and let them decide what they want to do with it. Chances are though that they will trash it because it would probably be painful memories for them because it would remind them of a time when their parents were happy together.
I am a little evil and I would probably trash it when he wasn't home and then when he realized it, tell him that it must have "accidently" thrown out.

I 'accidently' smashed to pieces the wine glasses imprinted with bm and (ex-dh's) names and wedding date.... I didn't realize that the box full of bm pics was a box of pics or I'd have never thrown them out! }:) The wedding photo album.... ummmmm.... what wedding photo album.... bm must have taken it!

Luckily, my new man doesn't want a damn thing to do with anything with bm.... including pictures or creepy memorabillia.....

Ok I'm the odd-man-out here... LOL! When I first moved in and was unpacking "MY" stuff into DH's house where BM moved out of, I found quite a few pictures, wedding pictures and the like that I'm quite sure she left on purpose. So I thought hmm.. ok... Skds might like to have these so I bought an album and put all the pictures I found into an album for them and the album is in their bedroom. Other 'things' I found in the house I packed away for SDs to have one day. It doesn't bother me one bit to have that stuff in my house. She left up a painting that I actually like and I still have it hanging up 9 years later!

I have album after album of the decade I was with perfectson's dad and I have all of that stuff packed away for him too. What's fair is fair to me.

What chapped my ass was when I went out to the barn right after moving in, and finding one of those big huge Bibles... you know the kinds that grandma's used to have displayed open on the coffee table with pictures and such? I found one of those that was given to DH and his 1st wife when they married. This was a beautiful engraved Bible and the back of it had rotted off. I took it in and asked DH why in the world it was thrown in the BARN? He said psychoBM had thrown it out there because she didn't want anything of 1st wife's in the house. OMG... This was something that definitely should have been protected for SS22 to have. Anyway I cleaned it up the best I could and it's on a shelf in my living room. I'm hoping that maybe I can have it re-bound when/if SS22 gets married he or his wife might like to have it since it once belonged to his mom and dad. I mean, come on... it's a Bible!!

My husband would never keep those things, because he's not sentimental about anything... in fact when I made my SS a scrapbook, I had to ask his Mom for a picture of her for it. Anyways... it's me however that has my old wedding album and old family pics in a box in the basement for my son.

From this side of things... I hate them too...and I hate looking at them because it's a part of my life I wish to forget. Having said that... my son is a sentimental guy, and I know he'll appreciate them someday when telling his kids where he came from, where they come from etc etc.

It doesn't seem to bother DH at all.

If it was me...the box would probably get runined next time the basement flooded...oops!

My DH kept his wedding ring and I suggested he give it to his son or daughter. He doesn't have many pictures of BM, more of his kids. He does have very old HS love letters in his trunk from his first girlfriend and just the other day he told me BM and a former GF wanted him to throw them out. I told him I don't care and wouldn't ask him to do that. I'm not going to read them either. He said they are part of his past and was mad they would ask him that. I'm more the type who throws things away, now I wish I hadn't just for the laughs and glimpse of my younger self.

Sometimes I'm jealous of the fact that she had 20 years with him and it should have been me. She had a devoted husband, house, two kids--and basically trashed it. She opposed him every step of the way when he was trying to better himself. I would have worked with him. We are a team and we relate on every level. She is dumb, lazy, unmotivated, and greedy. Literally, the woman has NO hobbies or interests. DH is near-genius, articulate and creative. Not a good match for her.

I know I am the love of his life and she was not, merely it was the right time to get married and she pressured him. I remember being at his old house and seeing a picture of him on his wedding day and thinking, that is MY husband (before we were married) LOL.

But I agree, these things should be tucked away. No need to view them everyday! What counts is today and what we make of it with our dear DHs.

I have my wedding album and 2 very large family photos with me and EX and the kids stashed under the crawlspace. I only saved it because my mom felt that I should save them for my son, but why would my son want those huge photographs? The albums I can understand saving for him, but one of these days when I get around to sifting thru all that crap, I'm taking the photos out of the frames and rolling them up in a tube, if my BS wants them he can have them, if not he can trash them.
My DH doesn't care, he knows my son is very close to his dad and doesn't mind the photos are there. They are well out of our sight so it doesn't matter to him.