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new baby with new partner feeling left out to half siblings

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Submitted by xspecialkx on Tue, 07/27/2021 - 11:38am

Am planning to have a baby with my new partner.

 

But I am worried the new baby or even toddler/child when it grows up will feel left out to the half siblings when they spend time staying at their biological dads house or when they have a weeks holiday with their biological dad.

 

Does the new child feel left out their brother and sister are gone for the week?

 

 

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Submitted by nengooseus on Tue, 07/27/2021 - 11:43am

I felt left out of the activities at my dad's house after he had bio kids.  My half-siblings didn't really care.  They had their mom and dad with them all the time.  They weren't concerned about where I went.

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Submitted by Esperanza on Tue, 07/27/2021 - 3:23pm

I have a DS7, a SS6 and together with my DH we have a DD1. When our DD1 was born both boys felt left out everytime they were staying at their other bio parent's house. They constantly asked "what did you guys do yesterday?" And no matter the answer (even if it was something completely uninteresting) they would be like "ahhh, I wish I was there too". They are less insecure about it now though, it has gotten better in time. 
I don't think my DD would ever feel left out as she will always be with both her parents 

 

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Submitted by ndc on Tue, 07/27/2021 - 4:30pm

My bio is just 1-1/2 and while she can't tell me it's so, I know she misses the skids when they're with BM.  I don't know if she feels left out, but she'll ask "where is SD8?" multiple times when they're gone. (She can't say SD6's name yet, so she doesn't ask about her, lol). When the SDs facetime with their mom, DD always wants to participate in the call, so BM talks to her, too. She wants to be involved in what her sisters are doing. I'm not sure if it's the age or whether it will continue and whether she'll feel left out when they're at their other house.

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Wed, 07/28/2021 - 4:17am

My DD is 6 and when my other daughters go to their dad's house, she gets very lonely and misses them so bad and always asks when they'll be home.  She doesn't miss her father's daughters who she rarely sees.  She just misses mine that she lives with half the time.  My oldest is 16 and has a car so now sometimes she will drive over and run her to McDonalds or out for ice cream to spend time with her on those extended visits and they facetime with her.  Also when they do arrive back at my house, they make a big deal of hugging her and kissing her and just piling on the attention.