Hi, I am new to this cite and I joined because I am having some really negative feelings associated with being a step-mother. I have always been crazy about my kids, 10 and 5 year old daughter, they really were the loves of my life, there father- not so much. After I divorced him, I met a new love and I consider him part of the love of my life catagory and he came with a little boy(5yrs). The kids took to each other very well and I thought I could really see myself loving him as my own. Shortly after the honeymoon phase with the kids wore off.