SD14 has "little prom" in the end of May or beggining of June.
DH wants to take her to another city in another country (Yup. You read that right) to buy her a dress she will like. Well she suggested it herself but he had no problem saying YES. he didn't even think of saying no. He says he sees no problem with it.
But I do.
At the time he wants to go, our baby will be about 15 days old. He wants to go on a trip that'd take a few days with SD14 and maybe SD12 and SD18 too. Though they all discussed it and figured it may be a trip only for SD14 because SD18 already had the prom-dress trip without her sisters,and if SD14 does, SD12 will as well.
1. SD doesn't deserve it. (It wouldn't be just buying a dress.. It'd be having fun with cousins,wasting money and being served by DH and his brother)
2. 15 DAYS OLD BABY HELLO
3. Uhm, wife?
4. All this AFTER the hotel bullshit so isn't that a bit too much spoiling? she's not a goddamn princess and even if she was, this would be TOO FUCKING MUCH!!!
Yeah. I'm pretty sure I married a moron,and I don't even get how didn't I see all this crap before.
Maybe it wasn't so blunt like now, maybe he hid it until I believed him completely, or I was just blindly in love.
I don't know, but I'm so pissed at myself for getting myself into this crap.
And even now that I know he's a moron, I love him with all of my heart.
OMG Your DH needs his head examined. I am sorry that you are going through this and having a brand new baby is NOT the time for him to take off on a trip with his little princess. That is just wrong!
OMG all this for "little prom?" Im assuming 8th or 9th grade? How on earth will he top that for an ACTUAL prom? She is 14, that's a little much. I think it would be a little much for senior prom. I am STUNNED.
My SD had a party bus for junior year homecoming. I wondered how she'd top that for senior prom, a helicopter? Kids these days just want and expect waaaay too much! And I have to agree, your husband is a moron for thinking this is a fine idea.
Wow.
I hope his daughters marry well, they're going to have to find actual princes to keep them in the lifestyle they are in. Is this the norm where you live or are they just extra spoiled?
WAY TOO MUCH! I cant fuking believe that hes actually serious and so happy about this!
Uh I cant even imagine big prom! but for Sd18 its next year so we will see.
Well where we live its either barely making the ends meet or rather wealthy..and for the latter this is common. even some that are average get a lot of unnecessary stuff,but there are not many average ones.
That is ridiculous. You will have just given birth and he wants to leave you alone with a newborn so he can spoil his kid? I seriously would tell him that there is NO WAY that is happening. Period.
I WOULD tell him that-but thatd be of no use. i cant stop him,when his princesses ask for something it must be done. I wish hed realize the stupidity of the idea! i told him i dont agree but he says hes done it for SD18 and so he has to do it for SD14 and 12 and that hes happy to.
Hi wreck, the baby is almost here!! congratulations sweety!!
Dont stress about it, it hot a HUGE thing, infact you can try and see it a good thing. You mean hes taking the steps for a few days?? Honey...rejoice!! You have a a few days to yourself and your new baby. I think you will cherish those few days of silence more than you realize.
Being home alone with a new baby might just suck, so maybe you can have a loved one stay with you while hes away shopping with his little princesses :sick:
DH should indeed take into consideration that you will be a newborn, so he should make arrangements to make sure you have someone at somepoint.
I can understand why hes doing it for SD14. If its something he did with the older daughers i understand him wanting to do it with the younger ones as well, the timing is indeed unfortunate.
Choose your battles, let them have this one...keep this in your arsenal ("DH remember the time you left me alone with a newborn to go shopping in foreign country" )
Thanks for a new perspective on it!
I guess it can be good in a way, but that wasn't their weekend though. SDs would have been at their mom's that week! So he's not taking them away from me.
But silence can be great,so I'll try to be happy about that.
I wouldn't like this. Sorry but even though its a nice idea you will have a 2 week old baby and I know my ex ( who is expecting a baby in may with his partner) would never leave her to take our 2 daughters somewhere and I wouldn't expect him to. Maybe I'm different but I believe his primary concern is with the woman he is with even though that is to the detriment of our daughters. I left him 10 years ago, he has his own life. He's not the best father and maybe my expectations are too low but I'm not his keeper. He makes his own decisions - right or wrong. I feel for my girls but that's life. Me and my family pick up the pieces. And are happy to do so. I'm not a pain in the arse BM . Funny I have to deal with one with my current disney dad father though.!!
I don't like this either!
Well, he believes that his primary concern are his daughters, and that nothing and no one can ever be to their detriment. Which is alright because they're his kids afterall.
But so is the baby.
Little prom is just like the normal prom, but it's when you finish 9th grade, because that's the end of "basic" school and then you go to highschool.
SDs have a mother, who offered to keep them when we're busy or give them to us if we need them to help with the baby, she said she'll buy her the dress if DH can't, but he refused because he wants to do it.
My SDs don't care about me and the baby so she asked and got what she wanted.
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SD14 has "little prom" in the
SD14 has "little prom" in the end of May or beggining of June.
DH wants to take her to another city in another country (Yup. You read that right) to buy her a dress she will like. Well she suggested it herself but he had no problem saying YES. he didn't even think of saying no. He says he sees no problem with it.
But I do.
At the time he wants to go, our baby will be about 15 days old. He wants to go on a trip that'd take a few days with SD14 and maybe SD12 and SD18 too. Though they all discussed it and figured it may be a trip only for SD14 because SD18 already had the prom-dress trip without her sisters,and if SD14 does, SD12 will as well.
1. SD doesn't deserve it. (It wouldn't be just buying a dress.. It'd be having fun with cousins,wasting money and being served by DH and his brother)
2. 15 DAYS OLD BABY HELLO
3. Uhm, wife?
4. All this AFTER the hotel bullshit so isn't that a bit too much spoiling? she's not a goddamn princess and even if she was, this would be TOO FUCKING MUCH!!!
Yeah. I'm pretty sure I married a moron,and I don't even get how didn't I see all this crap before.
Maybe it wasn't so blunt like now, maybe he hid it until I believed him completely, or I was just blindly in love.
I don't know, but I'm so pissed at myself for getting myself into this crap.
And even now that I know he's a moron, I love him with all of my heart.
OMG Your DH needs his head
OMG Your DH needs his head examined. I am sorry that you are going through this and having a brand new baby is NOT the time for him to take off on a trip with his little princess. That is just wrong!
He needs his head patted.
He needs his head patted. With a chair.
This is very wrong, and also a painful reminder to me that no one can measure up to them in this family.
OMG all this for "little
OMG all this for "little prom?" Im assuming 8th or 9th grade? How on earth will he top that for an ACTUAL prom? She is 14, that's a little much. I think it would be a little much for senior prom. I am STUNNED.
My SD had a party bus for junior year homecoming. I wondered how she'd top that for senior prom, a helicopter? Kids these days just want and expect waaaay too much! And I have to agree, your husband is a moron for thinking this is a fine idea.
Wow.
I hope his daughters marry well, they're going to have to find actual princes to keep them in the lifestyle they are in. Is this the norm where you live or are they just extra spoiled?
9th grade, end of "basic
9th grade, end of "basic school"
WAY TOO MUCH! I cant fuking believe that hes actually serious and so happy about this!
Uh I cant even imagine big prom! but for Sd18 its next year so we will see.
Well where we live its either barely making the ends meet or rather wealthy..and for the latter this is common. even some that are average get a lot of unnecessary stuff,but there are not many average ones.
That is ridiculous. You will
That is ridiculous. You will have just given birth and he wants to leave you alone with a newborn so he can spoil his kid? I seriously would tell him that there is NO WAY that is happening. Period.
This is crazy, I know. I
This is crazy, I know.
I WOULD tell him that-but thatd be of no use. i cant stop him,when his princesses ask for something it must be done. I wish hed realize the stupidity of the idea! i told him i dont agree but he says hes done it for SD18 and so he has to do it for SD14 and 12 and that hes happy to.
hes a moron thats about it.
I'm in Europe,and both the
I'm in Europe,and both the country we live in and the country where he's taking her are rather small so it's easy to travel from one to another.
Hi wreck, the baby is almost
Hi wreck, the baby is almost here!! congratulations sweety!!
Dont stress about it, it hot a HUGE thing, infact you can try and see it a good thing. You mean hes taking the steps for a few days?? Honey...rejoice!! You have a a few days to yourself and your new baby. I think you will cherish those few days of silence more than you realize.
Being home alone with a new baby might just suck, so maybe you can have a loved one stay with you while hes away shopping with his little princesses :sick:
DH should indeed take into consideration that you will be a newborn, so he should make arrangements to make sure you have someone at somepoint.
I can understand why hes doing it for SD14. If its something he did with the older daughers i understand him wanting to do it with the younger ones as well, the timing is indeed unfortunate.
)
Choose your battles, let them have this one...keep this in your arsenal ("DH remember the time you left me alone with a newborn to go shopping in foreign country"
just my $.02
Thanks for a new perspective
Thanks for a new perspective on it!
I guess it can be good in a way, but that wasn't their weekend though. SDs would have been at their mom's that week! So he's not taking them away from me.
But silence can be great,so I'll try to be happy about that.
EEEEWH, Wreck, I don't like
EEEEWH, Wreck, I don't like your hubby at all, he lost his mind!!
I don't like him anymore
I don't like him anymore either
They'll be staying a week in
They'll be staying a week in a 5 star hotel just before the trip.
They get everything they wish for.
I'm sure they feel cherished enough without this.
I'll try to make it a good weekend for me and the baby, though. Thank you!
I wouldn't like this. Sorry
I wouldn't like this. Sorry but even though its a nice idea you will have a 2 week old baby and I know my ex ( who is expecting a baby in may with his partner) would never leave her to take our 2 daughters somewhere and I wouldn't expect him to. Maybe I'm different but I believe his primary concern is with the woman he is with even though that is to the detriment of our daughters. I left him 10 years ago, he has his own life. He's not the best father and maybe my expectations are too low but I'm not his keeper. He makes his own decisions - right or wrong. I feel for my girls but that's life. Me and my family pick up the pieces. And are happy to do so. I'm not a pain in the arse BM . Funny I have to deal with one with my current disney dad father though.!!
I don't like this
I don't like this either!
Well, he believes that his primary concern are his daughters, and that nothing and no one can ever be to their detriment. Which is alright because they're his kids afterall.
But so is the baby.
Little prom is just like the
Little prom is just like the normal prom, but it's when you finish 9th grade, because that's the end of "basic" school and then you go to highschool.
SDs have a mother, who offered to keep them when we're busy or give them to us if we need them to help with the baby, she said she'll buy her the dress if DH can't, but he refused because he wants to do it.
My SDs don't care about me and the baby so she asked and got what she wanted.