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SO needs to be evaluated because he is delusional.

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Thu, 04/08/2021 - 5:12am

After a year of lockdowns, I made plans for DS and I to go in some trips together. Prior to COVID the last trips we went on YSD completely ruined with her disruptive, disrespectful tantruming behavior. I still have PTSD from the experience.

I made a promise to DS I would make it up to him, since we all had a horrible time. 

I have never hid my feelings or intentions from SO. So I was completely taken a back when he mentioned bringing YSD!!! 

He must be insane.

I told him flat out that if he plans to do that he will be driving with YSD in a seperate vehicle and renting his own place. I am not having her ruin another vacation I paid for ever again.

If he wants his fatherly guilt to cloud his judgement he can suffer the consequences all on his own. He will not be dragging me down with him 

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 04/08/2021 - 5:36am

Good for you. Seems like you two should take trips separately with your kids, and together with no kids.

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Submitted by shamds on Thu, 04/08/2021 - 6:44am

For ils that all skids would be at especially sd's

3 visits outings with them and on the 3rd one, sd24 was banging like a ceazy banshee on our bedroom door while our 1 & 2 yr old were sleeping. It was nothibg impo But she made it like it was life or death.

me and hubby were actually having sex and my husband stopped, put on his clothes and opened the door and took sd to his car to get her non important crap!! Never again, never any vacays or them staying with us, no meets ever!!

my husband has played the whole they apologised bullshit and lets start afresh. Nope I don't budge because they have shown repeatedly they have no intentions of being respectful people

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Submitted by missgingersnap2021 on Thu, 04/08/2021 - 9:14am

I made a rule pre-covid that I would never go away with DH and SD unless one or both of these things were to happen - That we stay in a hotel that has a sperate bedroom for us (with a door that closes) and a pull out couch for SD and that she brings a friend. I'm sorry but the happy little family of 3 is never going to happen. It was fine when we first met and she was only 10 but at almost 17 it's just boring for all of us (of course DH loves to make it sound like Im the only one that doesnt have fun) and I am not comofrtable with all 3 of us sleeping in the same room

With Covid last year I didnt have to worry about him trying to plan something but just the other night his Guilty Dad syndrome kicked in and he started saying how bad he feels for not taking SD anywhere in so long. GREAT! Now I have to wait and see what he tries to plan for this summer. 

Once I became a teenager family trips stops with my mom and dad except for the time thye rented a condo in Myrtle Beach and I brought a friend. Even my happily married parents didnt want to go away with just me at that age.

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Submitted by Harry on Thu, 04/08/2021 - 1:10pm

You know that SD will make it her job to destroy your and DS fun time.  With her actions.

Let DH pay got his SD to go by getting separate cars separate rooms not together, and separate going places if she acts up. and let DH accept her disrespect to the family on his dime.

You plan fun days with DS, they are only at this age one time, And have fun,  if SD, or when SD starts her show, Then do it by your selfs .