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So, I put a $20 bill in SD12's fundraising envelope last week. And it's now gone. SD12 doesn't know what happened to it.....but I know. BM took it. The reason I KNOW this is because: Last year when SD10 was selling candles for cheerleading, we ordered a couple, my BD18 ordered one, my in-laws ordered a few......and then you have BM who "ordered" 4, then BM's Dad "ordered" a couple, and a few of BM's "guy friends from the bar" ordered a few each. We ALL put cash in the envelope for the candles.

Fast forward to the day the orders have to be turned in......it happens to fall on "our" day, so I ask SD10 if she has the envelope. She says no, "BM has it and will bring it to practice."

Okay, so BM shows up to practice and gives the envelope to the coach, then leaves.

So, I go over and tell the coach I have one more order to add and pay for, because my SD18 decided she wanted to order another candle (true), the candles are $10 each. I get the envelope and walk back to the car where DH is waiting, and the envelope is a MESS. Several orders are scratched out. BM's own candle order has been lowered to ONE candle, and it's obvious that BM has TAKEN the cash. Pitiful. But, I will say this: Our candle orders were not messed with - and all our money was accounted for.

AND now this $20 bill thing. Surely, BM will replace this before it needs to be turned in?? I am hopeful.

AND DH called a few minutes ago to tell me that he got a text from BM that says:
"I do not have the soccer money needed for tonight. Can you pay it and I will pay you back?"

Okay, first of all, BM takes care of all soccer fees and we take care of all softball fees (softball is much more expensive!), and second of all their first game was last week, and BM was a "no-show". That's when the fees were really due. We explained to the coach (who is an old high school friend of mine), that BM couldn't make it, but we're sure she'll get him the money by the next game. He was okay with this, as this is his third year coaching the skids, and knows how BM works.

So, the dilemma for DH is this: Should we just go ahead and pay? KNOWING FULL WELL that BM will NOT pay us back (as we have learned this lesson the hard way several times before). DH is torn. If the fees don't get paid tonight, the coach will not allow the skids to play.

This is what I am CONSTANTLY telling DH. I know you feel bad. I know you want to pay the fees so the skids will play. BUT, this is BM's responsibility. SHE should feel bad. She KNEW this was coming. She just bought a NEW couch last week! She will get the money, somehow, some way. She just doesn't want to "WASTE" her money on extras for skids.

Anyways, to pay or not to pay???? That is the question.

P.S. after talking with DH some more, we have decided to just pay. It's not fair to the coach and skids to bring them in the middle of this. The coach has already paid the fees for all the kids out of his own pocket, so we will pay. Another reason for this decision is this: If DH tells BM that we will pay, she will likely NOT show up, so it's a BONUS. I will gladly pay $120 just to NOT see her face.