Seriously? Last night while boyfriend and I were finally alone, I thought I would share some of my epiphanies about our situation. He has been pissed at me in the past because I "vent" too much about his kids. So, I thought it would be a positive thing to tell him that I have been talking more to my girlfriends and using this site as a way to deal with my feelings. Well, I should have known...another argument! (By the way, the kids are about the only thing we ever disagree about!)
A little history here....we have lived together close to 2 years. His daughter, almost 18, has been here over a year after her stint in a mental facility. His son, almost 20, is here for the summer and will go back to college next month...thank you God! Their mother died about 5 years ago, which is unfortunate. Although, based on other's experiences with BMs, maybe I am lucky. Because, based on these kid's behavior, she was a weirdo. She was obsessively overprotective and made the daughter scared of her own shadow. She tried her best to keep the kids from their dad and moved them about 4 hours away. Therefore, he has always been the weekend fun dad. Also, I don't think she taught them how to do shit for themselves....the big thing this week was that the nearly 20 year old college student was too stupid to mow the grass properly. He mowed the flat parts and his back hurt and he felt "heatsick". I wasn't very nice and told him that is he would come out of the house now and then, he might get used to the heat. I told him to go back in the house to the ac and his computer! I am 46 and mowed the grass he screwed up and then walked a mile. Dear God! Last week he crammed two comforters into my washing machine almost burned it up.
Anyway, back to the argument. I was trying to share and make this situation better and all I got was another argument. He gets defensive about his loser kids who have no friends and never leave the house (the SD does work at least). I called his son "a pussy" which I know I shouldn't have but I am so sick of their whining and laziness!
I have been feeling so much better reading everyone's post about disliking their SC. It helps me from feeling like such a bad person. But still, WHY do I have so much distain for them?????