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Wady_bug's picture

I am so frustrated ......
10 years ago I started dating my SO .... His mini wife was 9 . I never realized they had a name for it I beat myself up for feeling jealous. We ended up splitting up 5 years ago because of her and I am sure other issues. He is the love of my life. He has more recently entered back into my life .... Yes I still love him.
We are going thru a multitude of trying times ... I lost my job he was diagnosed with cancer we discussed selling one of our houses .... He said it be better at the end of what finally was a decent conversation he said he would talk to now 19 year old mini wife .... I guess this should tell me something. Her attitude absolutely stinks ..... However she is a good kid her dad spoiled her so bad and doesn't see it ...... Where do I start I want to talk to him about this but have no clue where to begin. More recently we went for supper with the mini wife he ended up buying her a crazy expensive cell phone ..... Did I miss something here and the tide was so big I felt so uncomfortable I made them take me home ..... He will be off work soon due to the cancer diagnosis and we still have 2 mortgages ....... I want to run but I love him and do not want him going through this alone

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SweetMom's picture

don't attach and obligate yourself to his problems and finances. He maybe looking for someone to help him Spoil his Daughter one last time and use your money while he is using his to still spoil his grown ass daughter. I'd be getting him to get a life insurance policy in your name so when he leaves this horrible world you can go on a vacation to find you someone that really loves you.

Don't hate the player, hate the game.

Wady_bug's picture

Theses are not the comments I expected .... I am not attached to him in anyway regarding money I'm not that stupid .... And I have never had a conversation with him about his daughter not sure I even know how !!!!! We will both have to sell our houses that's just a reality ..... Mine due to job loss and his due to cancer we talked about having one house one mortgage .... It sounded good till he needed to discuss it with the daughter I was appalled ..... He does not seem to realize what he has done to her

Wady_bug's picture

Thank you dtzybind..... Somebody understands .... I can't abandon him.

There is no plan to move in together .... We just talked about it ..... When the daughter needed to be consulted I lost interest . Take care of me first .... Is there not a way to talk to these men to open there eyes do they ever open there eyes????

Then I read all these stories ..... I am disheartened

I do not need his financial support