GAL allowing
GAL in the case acknowledges that BM is continuously in contempt and that she is unable to get ss13 to follow rules in her home.
BUT who cares.
GAL is requesting that BF continue to attempt to be involved with ss13 by himself, there are to be no visits with his own brother or his step siblings. BM continues to lie to the court claims that ss13 gets hurt when at BF home, how is that possible when visits have not happend for over 6 months. GAL claims that she wants to see how things go with her being involved. She has been involved for for 4 months, No visits.
He excuse is that ss13 needs to feel comfortable and that he needs to continue to have a relationship with BM because .... here it comes..............
GAL is afraid that if she removes ss13 from BM's house that BM will get depressed to the point that she will not have anything to do with ss13 and that would not be good for ss13.
Who cares if BF and the rest of us are upset, having to spend money on things that dont matter because
bm is never held responsible. So we rack up thousands of dollars to get BF to have one on one visits with ss13 so that bm was comfortable.
GAL said that you can't make a 13 year old get into a car, oh ya you can!!!!!!!! take away some of his shit, stop giving him 100.00 so that he can buy chew, stop sending him to his friends house for overnights when it is bf's visitation time.
I am so pissed off, come here for support and instead you guys are too busy putting each other down.
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I know from personal
I know from personal experience how frustrating this can be. I have learned from personal experience that the GAL's of this world are human just like the rest of us and they can fall for the best of the sucker lines and pity parties that these BM's (or BF's) can throw at them. And then when the parent that actually CARES about the child tells the GAL all the things the other party is doing that is harmful to the child, the GAL thinks they are "just being petty" or "trying to make the other parent look bad." Ugh! I just don't know what the solution is, other than to keep doing what is right and hang in there and the kids DO see it one day (in most cases).
And I will tell you that my ex tried that "well, I can't make BD14 get in the car" and the judge in our case flat out told him "yes, sir you can. And if you can't physically make her get in the car, you can let her know that her life is going to be pretty miserable if she doesn't! That's YOUR responsibility to make sure she visits with her mother."
A few weeks ago I wrote that
A few weeks ago I wrote that the GAL had told ss and bm that if he did not come to visit that she would remove him from the home - foster care or physically have him removed by law enforcement herself.
All it was, was a false threat, all BM learned was that the GAL was not going to follow through and so now things have gotten worse. no visit over the weekend, bf made every attempt even attempted to get her to agree to let ss come down with grandparents (the one's who stold the kids fish and they died) per bm ss would not be safe there because I might be sneaking around.
BM claimed that ss was sick on sunday - no visit
BF said that he would come all the way up to BM's home to visit with ss and sit outside but per Bm he was really sick, BF is an emt so I am sure that he can handle a sick kid sitting outside of a house.
(surprise guess what just showed up on facebook as I was typing this - pics of BM/ss/and stepF at a motorcyle rally on Sunday when ss was sick AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Stupid GAL how much is it going to take for her to see what is going on. - of course we can't get on ss's site but they seem to forget that kids pass around pictures to other's including his sister's and biobrother)
Why tell them that if she was not going to follow though?
I find that generally those
I find that generally those that work in the Family Law field are the bottom 10%ers of the legal profession.
Judges, Lawyers, GALs, Clerks, Secretaries, etc.......
Makes no difference.
These are people that cannot make a viable contribution to the private sector so they go to work in a field that really has reason for existing other than to employ the otherwise unemployable.
Rather than focus on the best interests of the children they make decisions that perpetuate situations that would be easily resolved if they were not ensuring their own employement with their decisions.
So ..... I absolutely understand why you have no use the the GAL.
With the exception of one attorney (our attorney) who is outstanding I have no use for the entire Family Law profession.
Best regards.
I don't get this. If a bio
I don't get this. If a bio child in a joint 2 person house hold would act this way everyone including social services and law enforcement would say come pick up your son/daughter and deal with it. The child would not be given a choice to say "I dont want to be with you". ss only says these things when BM is around and once when he was with bf but on the phone with bm. He never acts this way without he being around. Doesnt any of these people happen to think that maybe he if afraid of her and not us. We dont have behavioral issues when he is with us.
BM by her actions has made a situation where ss is afraid to tell her that he wants to visit and he always gets his way - even the GAL stated that.
(we know and have taped messages and emails of BM refusing visits and such, we know that it is not that ss doesnt want to visit because that is not what he is stating in therapy, in sessions he gives hugs on his own and makes future plans for activities talks about seeing friends)
Wow! I thought a GAL was
Wow! I thought a GAL was supposed to look out for the best interest of the child, not BM. I guess BM's feelings are more important than BF's right to be a parent. No visitation? That's just ridiculous! I'm so sorry for your situation.