Question? who do I talk to?

I need SS12 out of my home, I don't know wether to tell SS12 to pack up and get out or tell his BM to take him. What do you think?

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well, u need to talk to dh

well, u need to talk to dh and bm and ss12. you need to have good reason not to want him in your home, but dont be too nasty about it. try to take the 'poor me" approach, explain how he effects your life, your health physically and mentally. be as mature as u can be about it. u could also add in some benefits of ss12 being with bm instead of u, such as the mother/son bond.

if all else fails, u can leave and maybe dh will realize that ss12 is creating such turmoil. the way i see it, children grow up and dont need their parents anymore. but a spouse will be there till the last day of your life. your dh needs to make a decision here.

good luck hun.

I would just call the BM and

I would just call the BM and tell her what's up. That is of course as long as you and your DH are on the same page here.

Neither. Your DH needs to be

Neither. Your DH needs to be the one to initiates SS12 to move out. And no one can kick out a minor.

Please stay out of the line of fire. Trust me...you'll just end up getting burned.

What is it that SS12is doing that's so bad?

If you read a couple of my

If you read a couple of my blogs, you may understand my frustration, this kid is an absolute brat(DH agrees) and he absolutely thrives on conflict!

Ick...does BM have the same

Ick...does BM have the same problem with him? Is military school an option?

Sorry you're going through this. It sucks but in order for the outcome to go in your favor DH needs to be the initiating this...ie talking to BM and SS. He can call for a meeting on the behalf of everyone,including you, but it's his call. By all means persuade him.

My SO says that if SS12

My SO says that if SS12 doesn't shape up he will send him to his BMs. I don't agree with him because the BM is POS. But I do believe if the custodial parent has tried everything in the books to straighten out the kid then ship them off to the other parent and let them deal with the kid.

If you think his BM will help straighten him out then I say "send him to her already" If not military school for him. This kid needs some tough love to straighten him out. I still can't believe he used the word "shit" in front of you talking about your food.

Good luck!

The problem is BM is such a

The problem is BM is such a bitch and DH is so afraid of losing SS12 to Bm that he just sometimes lets ss12 walk over him. But in DH's Defense he is getting much better at discipline, and BM is currently turning SS14 into even a bigger brat after he left us a year ago but there was a lot of peace after ss14 moved, and I know that there will be more peace after ss12 moves. even on a regular day with even 4 other children in the house there is peace until SS12 gets home from school then all hell breaks loose. I just hate living like this!!!

Your DH needs to really move

Your DH needs to really move it up a notch with the discipline when your SS12 uses curse words around you and towards you. My SO disciplined SS12 today by spanking him. SS12 lied to me last Thursday, Friday and today! And while he was lying he felt it was necessary to give me an attitude and talk to me with a tone. SO and I have had enough. Tough love is what your DH needs to practice. His son is 12 what is he going to be like at 16? You say his brother is already bad....and the BM is a bitch! Your DH needs to be a man and toughen up.

Dh is much better at riding

Dh is much better at riding SS12's ass, but most of the bad behavior happens when DH isn't around, DH's last girlfriend Beat his boys, which leaves me in a position where I am unable to discipline. SS12 does get mouthy when DH is home and DH has gotten better, ecspecially in the last 3 months, at disciplineing SS12. but the kid doesn't seem to get it he just keeps misbehaving, and nothing we do seems to make a difference, the kid just loves to cause chaos.

Wow! The last GF would beat

Wow! The last GF would beat the kids! That lady had some balls but then again she no longer is in the picture for a good reason...I have told my SS12 to shut the F up, I have yelled at him at the top of my lungs, I once spanked him on the butt (that was because he was saying some raw shit about something serious that happened to his sister) I have grabbed him by his arm and taken him up to his room and put him to bed and way more things. He has also been the main reason as to why I have left in the past. Sometimes I just can't stand him but then he is a good kid when he is not up to no good.

My SO says that he believes something is wrong with SS12. BM and her father both can't keep jobs, they blame everybody else for their mistakes, they are stubborn and argumentative and many other things. SS12 is the same way. BM was court ordered to take a psychiatric evaluation which she failed to take. If she would have taken that test we would have an idea as to what is wrong with SS12.

You guys NEED to do something about him. If he mainly acts this way to you when DH is not around, you need to put your foot down and tell DH that you will NOT watch that disrespectful f n brat for him.

Have you done that already?

I am now in a stage where I

I am now in a stage where I completely ignore his existance, it seems to be the only way to function.

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