I hate these Friday's when both Step kids are going to be here!!!
who else is with me on this? do you get those sick to your stomach feelings when you know the nest 3 days are going to be absolute hell? You know I wouldn't have a problem with it soo much if BM would take both of her kids instead of just one. I could deal somehow if it was just every other weekend with the skids but I get to keep one of them full time, and I don't want to. The worst thing is now ss12 wants to go live with BM and she told him "no"!!!! WTF!!!! First you never say that to a kid, it makes them feel like they are not good enough to be loved, but you find some other way of saying it. Now life here is absolute hell with ss12 I know some of this is because he was hurt by BM, but why does he have to take it out on me??? I just wish she would change her mind!! I am soo tired of raising her children for her because it isn't convienient for her to do it! I am just tired of this bullshit, my EX and I don't have these problems in raising our kids(and it wasn't a good breakup or marriage) He understands that I am the primary caregive as I have full custody and he has visitation at my discretion only,and what I say goes, or he doesn't get to see them! but things have been good, except he never pays child support, I never bad mouth him (and it would be soooo easy) but the kids are starting to see how he really is! they want to stay with MOM this weekend! I just wish I didn't have skids full time, I am under enough stress without their nasty bull shit, and I wish their BM would just be responsible for them, this is not my job!!!!!!!
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Are there things that you
Are there things that you can do while they are there just to decompress your tension? Usually, when SD is at my house,my own kid is there so I have no choice but to interact because they love each other so much and I'd hate to discourage that. But sometimes we have her when choochoo is with his dad and I use that time to dive into my own personal interests. I read A LOT,I'll work on projects for my house (ya know the stuff you put off doing for so long),go horseback riding, go shopping, meditate...ANYTHING to keep the tension monkey off my back without hurting anyone's feelings.
If BM had the skids full time, would it really truly make you happy? Or would it cause more problems with the skids behavior issues and cause more stress for you when they do come to visit in your house? I would think while it IS hard to have them with you all the time...it MAY be harder having them with BM full time. Think about how she'd run the show and think about how damaging that would be to all the work you've already put into the skids...
I think it would hurt you to see all your efforts completely washed away by their BM.
lol Did that make any sense or was I just babbling?? I hope it made sense!
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Catch me up Vgill, you guys
Catch me up Vgill, you guys have custody of the skids right? BM only gets one of the kids at a time for visitation? What is the visitation schedule?
“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”
Dh has had custody of his
Dh has had custody of his boys since they wee in diapers but last year ss14 went to live with BM well our house is more peacefull. ss12 still lives with us but says he wants to go live with BM, mostly when he doesn't get his own way, he throws tantrums like a 2 year old!! I am at the point where i am holding my tounge when he screams at me I want to go live with mom... I feel like say I want you to go too!! but I am a good person and just ignore what is meant to bait me into a fight and just remind him to finish his homework and his chores.
i'm with ya vgill!!!
i'm with ya vgill!!! however, i'm on skid free friday time(actually started thursday) when skids go to bm until wed (they actually spend most of the time with MIL on bms time -- but they're not with me, so great -- mil just makes them call 50 times a day to inform us of the hamburger they just ate or the bike ride they just had or the bath they took, or the tv they turned on or the glass of tea they just had --- you get the picture) ..... then my bad mood sets in until the following wed...