I am dealing with a bm who is horrible to me. I have never done anything to deserve her BS- i have been in the picture now for over 6 yrs- been a great step mother to their 3 kids- and we had our own lil bundle about 2 yrs ago... BUT I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND Y the BM is STILL telling her children ages 11 (girl); and 15 (boy) (who lives with us); that they dont need to respect or listen to me. My oldest stepdghtr is 21 and has two kids and can see my frustration but has her loyalty to her mother...