So I just got married in September and my parents are making an effort to be grandparents to my sd who is 12, but with her seizures she has the mental compatibly of an 8-9yr old. Anyway, my husband brought her home in these nasty looking clothes from her mothers house. These black pants that were falling off her, a low cut shirt, that I gave her but told her to always wear a bra with, but of course she doesn't. She's crawling on the floor with her chest sticking out and her pants falling halfway down her bottom with my parents over for Christmas. I was so embarrassed; and then as soon as as my parents walk in she's eating and burping and then passed gas while my parents are gathering their food. My husband seemed really grossed out, but of course he didn't punish her but he did eventually make her change her clothes. I made a couple comments that she should have more modesty for her age group. She ate and then left the food all over her face. Then my mom was trying to eat her food and she's behind her singing loud on purpose and just being a total brat. I had to take two of my anti-anxiety pills to keep my lid on. I was just so embarrassed, but my parents just blew it off; but I'm still embarrassed. Having her over every weekend is really making me not want to have kids, but when I look at all my nieces and nephews on husbands side and my side; the children do not act that way. My husbands nephews can get a little rowdy sometimes but other than that they are good kids. Why can't I feel the same way towards my sd>
My husband blames her new medication that she is on, but I feel that you can be hyper but still behave. His sister and mother feel the same way I do. I don't understand why she can speak Spanish, but can't dress herself, or wash her hands or comb her hair. I know that her mother looks a tragic mess to but I just have a hard time understanding these things.
I'm just at wits end.