How Many of You Have Hear This Line Before
FDH has always told me that his relationship with Crazo was over long before their marriage ended. I think it was right after FSD was born. But some how two years later they had another child. We were talking about this the other day and this is how the conversation went down:
FDH - The marriage was over long before ended. I only stayed for the kids.
Me - When did you know?
FDH - Shortly after FSD was born.
Me - Then how did you have FSS if you couldn't stand her anymore and she was so emotionally and verbally abusive towards you?
FDH - To try and save the marriage.
Me - But you had to have sex with her? (With a look of complete shock on my face)
Obviously that didn't work because their marriage ended two years later. Crazo tried to get him to have another child with her just before they split to, "try and save the marriage again. FDH was smart this time and said.
I was just wondering is any of you guys have heard this or anything similar from your SOs?
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I missed the no at the end of
I missed the no at the end of what FDH said. Which just happens to the most important part of the story.
Oh yes. DH had said his
Oh yes. DH had said his marriage was over, and lo and behold BM got pregnant (supposedly they had been trying for all the years they had been married, but it just hadn't happened. I think BM never wanted kids with DHand was on birth control the whole time....until it looked like DH was about to leave.)
This infertile woman got pregnant 3 times in 2 years. Once was a miscarriage.
But I still know why DH slept with BM. Because DH likes sex so much. Even if he didn't like BM much anymore, he wasn't going to deprive himself.
i have an ex like that. he
i have an ex like that. he doesn't have to be attracted physically or like the person. she can be a fat, ugly bitch and he'll still have sex with her just because it's sex. i don't get it. if i'm not attracted or don't like the person, it's not happening.
Yep - similar story to yours.
Yep - similar story to yours. After elder SD was born, the marriage was stuffed - no sex for a year or more, then BM gets pregnant again and has younger SD. They split up when she was four, after years of non-stop wall to wall arguing. But younger SD still refers to the time her parents were together as "the golden age" - ha ha. Not that she can remember it.
My question is how can you
My question is how can you sleep with someone that you don't like?
I quit sleeping with my ex two years before I fianlly left him. (Don't worry he was getting from other women.) I just couldn't. I no longer found him attractive and didn't like him anymore. I just stayed because of our BD.
I dunno. Hubs is a bit
I dunno. Hubs is a bit different now, but basically in his past he would screw anything that wasn't nailed down. Maybe I exaggerate, a bit, but he would have sex with people he really didn't like, who were hot. He wasn't very picky.
My situation is exactly like
My situation is exactly like yours.
He continues to tell me that their marriage was kaput long before the divorce. It stopped working as soon as their 1st daugther was born. Yet, in the heat of a moment on a good day admist their usual heated and abusive relationship, they had sex and she wound up pregnant with their 2nd daugther.
.... It boggles my mind and frustrates me to NO end.
"Men......all that's required
"Men......all that's required there is one head with no brain."
Love it.
I could see that. It's like the time I asked FDH how many women he's been with and he told 40. :jawdrop: I was like OMG. I can count the amount of men I've been with on one hand and we're almost the same age.
Yeah, I was told about the
Yeah, I was told about the same. I just can't conceive of that. 40? Really? Ew. You had ourself some low standards, pal.
Have you never stayed in a
Have you never stayed in a bad relationship for too long, unhappy?
Of course I have. To my BD's
Of course I have. To my BD's fathers. I stayed because of my BD. We quit having sex about two years before it ended. He quit bathing and brushing his teeth. It was nasty. He slept on the couch while I slept in the bedroom. There were nights that he just didn't come home, which I knew what he was doing. His main goal in life was to remain 21 and still is. I did all the house work, yard work, took care of our BD, worked, paid all the bills, and went to school full time. He worked, partied, and played video games. Sounds pretty equal huh.
I stayed with him because I grew up in a broken home several times over (Dad was a man slut) and I wanted better for my BD. Then one day it dawned on me. What type of example am I setting for her? I'm not happy and eventually she will know it. I don't want her think that she ever has to settle. So I left him because of that thought and the fact that he was drinking and driving with her in the car.
My DH's story was it was long
My DH's story was it was long over right before she got pregnant. He broke up with her after 5 yrs of dating and her being a crazy lunatic and one day he saw her walking down the street, she flagged him down and said she was pregnant. Within 3 months he married her and bought her a house. Within 6 months of the baby being born, she was out drinking and partying every night and had herself a boyfriend. Obviously it couldn't have been THAT bad if he dated her for 5 years before she got pregnant. I don't even let him talk about these stupid stories anymore. I really do not care what happened between them or why. All it does is get me upset so I never ask questions!!
"i like to think he was
"i like to think he was dumber back then."
You always crack me up falbby.
My husband dated his ex wife
My husband dated his ex wife for 5 years. Then got married. It lasted 1 year and 10 months. During that time, they separated 3 times.
The idiots decided a baby would "help their marriage"..all the while they lived at her parents because my DH was getting his masters degree.
When SD was 4 months old...they broke up permanently.
Idiots...so basically SD was nothing but a mere marriage saving attempt...who became a guaranteed 18 year paycheck for idiot BM. Luckily she moved before HS and we got out of paying the last 4 years!
In this respect, I feel sorry for my SD. SHe needs to quit being pissed at me who has done everything for her and be pissed at the two assholes who created her and ruined her life!
if i'm not attracted or don't
if i'm not attracted or don't like the person, it's not happening.
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Most men don't work that way. My grandma used to say that men would have sex with a log, if it had a knot hole in it. lol
I agree 100% Willow.
I agree 100% Willow.
Yup, same story. DH meets BM,
Yup, same story. DH meets BM, she becomes a carbon copy of him, he's young and thinks that is what we wants. They rule the world, she decides she wants to get married, he refuses. She gets knocked up. They have SD. She cheats and threatens to leave him if they don't get married. They get married (I KNOW!). He spends every night home alone while she works, raising SD, when she is home he hides in the yard or garage doing "chores". She then suddenly gets prego with SS. DH stays for the kids. SS is 2, BM meets Homewrecker and has an affair for a year before she finally bails.
According to DH he hated her long before she left but hated being away from his children so he fought for the marriage (They were together 12 years total).
Now, He claims he realized what a tool he was.
That's the excuse that crazo
That's the excuse that crazo gave FDH about FSD when she got prego the first time. Funny how frequently that happens when the statistics state that there is only a 1% total of women who get prego on brith control.
DH and crazy bitch got
DH and crazy bitch got together when they were both young (TOO YOUNG). Only a few short months into the relationship, he found her calendar. The one where she kept track of which guy she was sleeping with on which days (sometimes more than one a day :sick: ). Big fight ensued; she confessed to being a hosebag. She was already preggo. She was the ripe old age of SIXTEEN.
He stays because of the baby. They get in a huge fight around Xmas (baby is 6 months old) because she felt HE should get up with the baby in the middle of the night because she dealt with her all day. He felt SHE should because he was working 60 hours a week to pay for all of them! He kicked her out, she took the baby with. She refused to let him see the baby.
About 6 months later, she shows up with SD, big as a freaking house preggo again. She claims it is his and he has to do "what is right for his children." (cue waterworks)
My dumbass DH tried to get DNA tests done (knowing she was a slut) but she freaked out and he backed off. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr............
So, yeah, his relationship with her WAS over - or should have been if she/he would have taken the proper responsibility for BIRTH CONTROL!!
Well, I've been married to
Well, I've been married to the same DH since I was 19 (I stepparented my nephew CTBB), and he was a total dog before we got married. He was a baseball player- those guys get more poontang than Frank Sinatra. Anyway, I didn't have sex w/ him until we were engaged, one because I was a good Catholic girl and two because he had treated sex so casually in the past. Plus he was getting over a nasty case of the clap when we first met, and it really skeeved me out. (at least he was honest!)He doesn't know which one of the last 3 girls he fucked before me gave it to him- it was either Firecrotch, Big-Head Barbie, or C.I.(certifiably insane.) His grand total at the age of 20years 3 months? 12. And this was back in '83! :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick:
My bf wasn't married to the
My bf wasn't married to the bm. But he still dated her for 8 months.. got her pregnant then continued to date her (insert eyeroll) and try to reconcile with bm until she left town to run home to her mommy. After that he still kissed her butt even though she jerked him around.
He says that it was over when she got pregnant and then left town at 8 mos pregnant. Ok. So you guys were together up to that point? Yes, but.
Ok. Hhmm.
Sorry.. they say one thing but then the actual facts present another alternate truth.
So I finally asked bf one day while he was on a rant..when did you guys cease to be a couple...he said it was when she left. I just don't believe men are so gullible. How do you just turn off your feelings for someone? That is, if you really cared about them?
For me, when I decided to get divorced, I truly had been moving to this point in my life for years!! After telling my then spouse I had filed for divorce, he lived in the house for a total of 6 weeks of unending torture and hell. Until finally after a fit of anger, I told him to get the crap out. I couldn't stand him any longer. He made me sick and the last thing I would think of was having sex with him. You've got to be kidding me.
I guess men are sorta different. They'll bang whoever if it's there. Me, I'd rather poke my eyeballs out than to have sex with my ex. Ewwww!!
I think we all wonder...what
I think we all wonder...what sort of woman get's pregnant just to keep a man? That's the ultimate manipulation!!
Yep heard the exact same
Yep heard the exact same story from GG.
Tried to "save" the marriage with a THIRD child! When they both knew it wasn't working after the FIRST one! Seems he didn't turn down the sex!
And the Behemoth was a stay-in-bed mom so I guess he felt "obligated" to her to support. Too bad he doesn't feel obligated to me for anything. He just lives off of me and then tells me I"m not doing enough.
BM was pregnant with another
BM was pregnant with another man's baby when my SO met her ... this was another man, NOT her ex-husband whom she had recently divorced ... she got an abortion ... SO said one on of their first dates, she showed up with a bunch of hickies on her neck. Really SO?!?!?! You were that blind to the fact that she was a whore?! And then she cheated on him early in their marriage ... they stayed together "for the kids" ... she cheated on him again (with a close friend of his family) ... they went to counseling ... eventually he moved out (even though she was still sleeping with him WHILE THEY WERE DIVORCING and with the guy she cheated on him with!!!! I kid you not!!!). I don't understand it and I'm over trying to ... it just stresses me out too much and grosses me out when I see her and know how she is and that he was with her, etc. etc. etc. You all know!