If any of you havn't read my previous blog I would recomend it before responding to this one.

DH and I have been texting back and forth all day today. I have been ripping him a new one because I am sick of him freaking ignoring what say about his kids, not doing anything about bad behavior (at least with SS), and freaking out and accussing me of "having it out for his kids." For two years now I have been telling him that his son is out of control, but nobody listens to Unhappy.

SS's punishments are as follows:

- Grounded for the entire week he is with us starting Monday. That means that he comes home everyday and puts his PJs on does his homework and goes straight to his room. He is allowed out for potty breaks and to eat. That's it. He is allowed to play with puzzles and look at books. No playing with toys.

- We are going to be removing all of his toys from his room before he shows up on Monday.

- He lost his movies on Friday and Saturday night. Infact he TV is being pulled too.

- No music in bed.

- He has lost all of his treats and believe me I'm going to be picking up some good ones this weekend.

- He will not be accompaning us on the weekend to do any of the fun things that I will plan before then.

- (This one will be a stretch) DH is going to limit his attention to SS meaning that SS gets the bare minimum. Yes or no answers. No joking with him. No 20 minute daddy son cuddle paly time at bedtime. It'll be a kiss and an I love you and that's it. (If DH can manage this one it will be the most effective part of SS's punishment.)

Now this is what pisses me off. I made the suggestion of some mindless labor appropriate punishment of putting rocks in a bucket walking it across the backyard dumping it out, putting the rocks back into the bucket walking across the yard again and dumping it, and repeat. (I was in military school and I can tell you that I hated the mindless punishments and would have rather just done pushups.) Of course DH's response is we can't do that. I asked him why and responded with SS won't do it.

So let me get this straight, he's being punished for being a manipulative little brat at school and throwing a huge temper tantrum because HE DIDN'T WANT TO GO TO SCHOOL (which by the way worked)and assaulting a police officer multiple times. This is not the first time he has done this. This is the third time that he decided that he didn't want to go to school and freaked out until he got his way. So he's being punished for what he did and yet there are certain punishments that you can't do because the 5 year old has decided that HE DOESN'T WANT TO DO IT. Are you freaking kidding me DH. This type of thinking is why you're in the situation your in with SS. The kid has to much power and do you want to know why? Because you allow a freaking 5 year old to dictate which punishments will be acceptable to him or whether or not he's going to school. Since when is that okay and why can't you see the relation between what he did at school and your mantality.

I am so irratated with this whole thing. A 5 year old does what they are told. Has respect for his parents, other adults, and authority figures. Why might you ask? Because that's how you're supposed to raise your freaking kids.

Stick him out in the backyard. If he chooses to not do it then it's his choice. But guess what? He will stand out there until he gets the job done. You want to know why? He's freaking 5 almost six next month. Not only would this be a good mindless punishment for him but if he wants to have a battle of the wills and try to flex his power muscle again with DH fine. DH will win this time. It's a freaking start to taking the power back that DH has just handed over to this kid. Sit outside. Be stubborn. It won't do you any good. Eventually he'll do it and that will prove a serious point to SS. It may have to be done again and again, but the point is very simple. You will listen, you will follow the rules, and you will treat people with respect.