I originally found this site when I was looking for information on how to handle dealing with my XH and his fiancee and I have to thank you all for sharing your stories - hearing the blended family horror and success stories from the perspective of step parents has helped me understand some of what XH's fiancee must have experienced for the last couple of years and will experience (hopefully not the worst of it, but the feelings and hardships that go with taking on another person's child) in the future and in some ways has made me more sympathetic to her experience.