So dh had to turn in his dates to bm for summer visitation. Dh can get up to 30 days on top of regular visitation. Last year dh divided the 30 days into two visits. It was horrible! For everyone. Ss couldn't stand being here long periods of time- prob because dh worked and ss was with me and our kids all day very day. Not to mention I had an infant so wasn't going out much. It was frustrating for ds and dd because they like playing with ss but only in small doses. After a while they get tired of him and ss picks on them. Even dh was tired of ss! He won't admit it but his mood changed when ss would leave after a long visit.

So this year I was hoping for two shorter visits. Dh and I talked about doing two weeks when dh was off. Keep in mind last year we didn't know that rhe 30 day visit was in addition to regular visitation. This year we knew and I didn't think dh would want another summer like last year. Today he emails bm his dates- 30 days!! They are broken in half, but dh will only be off one week plus weekends. That leaves guess who with ss. Not only did dh do this without discussing it with me first, he also did a messed up schedule where we will basically have ss ALL of July, except for 4 days! Dh knows that I have two trips planned in July. Nothing major- just visiting family, but still. I'm not cancelling my plans and he knows this but isn't happy.

I knew this was going to happen again. Dh wants his 30 days just because he can, not because he really wants it. He does it to spite bm. I just thought maybe it'd be different this year. Ugh. It's barely April (almost) and I'm already dreading the summer!