This isn't a big deal, just something I noticed his weekend. So this weekend we went to visit our families. They live in the same town. We also had ss13. Since mil didn't see the kids on Valetines she gave he kids their Vday gifts. She gave our 3 bios a stuffed animal. Sil also got our 3 bios a small gift. Neither got anything for ss. Idk if it is because he is 13 and they see him as 'too old' to get gifts or if hey didn't know ss was coming this weekend or what. I was a little surprised because mil comes from a blended family, also has kids from 2 different dads and has/does still deal with blended family issues. She talks about how she treated her ex's daughter just like her own when she visited. I have always felt that she blamed me during the time ss stopped visiting and have felt that mil feels like I should be more of a mom to ss. So it surprised me that she didn't get anything for ss.

On the other hand, dh is constantly pointing out how my family leaves ss out of things. My family is in no way mean to ss. They talk to him, get him gifts on Christmas or bday money. But I always tell dh that my parents are not going to treat ss he same as our bios. And for he most part dh is ok with it. Just every now and then he makes a comment to me, I usually roll my eyes and that's it. So why is it that dh notices when MY parents don't do things for ss but never acknowledges or notices when his own mom blatantly does the same thing?! At least with my parents, they would've given the bios their things when ss wasn't around. Mil gave gifts right in front of ss and dh never noticed. I know he didn't notice because he didn't even mention it to me later. What a wierdo!