Thanks all of your posts, many of you are not the first ones to say its DH not helping the situation. This man is so in denial sometimes I think to myself is this man really this oblivious.For example I found a 3pack of condoms in her book bag with one missing and when I told him his response was maybe she gave one to someone, which may be true but I doubt it, I am amazed at some of his ridiculous responses. As if no no not my daughter(s) We are going back into counseling next week and the problem is he will turn this all around on me I know he will. God forbid it be HIS parenting skills. And I have told him that I blame him for not stepping up to the plate as far as respect, rules, chores etc. He tries of course after I throw a fit, they are 17 for gods sake,so he made a list of weekly chores for them, posted it in their bathroom but never sticks to it or enforces it. Drives me insane.

And it infuriates me. At first I thought ok maybe its hard for him because its a father-daughter thing but now I think they are making a fool of him and he allows it. And I am always the bad guy. And since my realtionship with both girls in so strained its impossible for me to control my temper sometimes.

Yesterday they had no school so her father told me she would be hanging out at a friends house, so at 8:20 am (a bit early ya think) she leaves the house on her bike and I see her go in the direction of the friends house, so I hop in my car and drive down to the friends(because I dont trust her) nope not there, so I continue to drive and see her on the main road so I pull up to her and say does your father know your are going to BF's house she said no she was meeting the friend at Burger King, again its 8:20am. So I call DH and tell him the story and he just blows it off but calls her on her cell phone then calls me back to tell me that he asked her if she was going to see the BF, she said they were going to a friends to go swimming and he "might" show up, we dont like him. Which he did tell her she needs to be up front because it looks like she is lying, which she always does. Whatever right, a couple hours later I hear her twin upstairs screaming on her phone, so I go upstairs and ask her whats wrong and she tells me that her sister is at the lake with the BF and another friend of theirs and wanted to know if she was coming, which she had no idea they had any of this planned, so she was ticked. So again I call DH and tell him where she is and that BF is there and he then tell me that he knew they may be going to the lake!!! Communication is not our strong point, I cant wait to hear what the counselor has to say about this. We are never on the same page and we never agree on parenting.

So I do my good deed and drive her sister to the lake with her bike in the back in my car. Now the kicker is the friend she was suppose to meet was not there! The little b*** had this planned all along. So I tell DH but he never bothers to ask.....see my dilemma.