Im 23 i have been dating a man with 3 kids for almost a year. Things moved very quickly and i am pretty much with the children the whole week that we have them. I am at my boyfriends home from the time they get home until the time they go to bed. I pretty much play mommy at daddys house. He's an excellent father and tries so hard to make up the time he doesnt get to spend with them. The biomother doesnt seem to spend much quality time with them, she works until an hour before their bed time. The youngest is 5yr she was almost 2 when her parents divorced she doesnt remember her mother and father living together. In my oppinion she is starving for attention, her father and I try to give each of the three all the attention that we can our lives are very busy we are active in church, gymnastics and soccer and seem to have a ton of homework. As well as 3 kids to take care of. The daughter doesnt like to share anything especially people. Which includes me, her father and any guests that come over. She wants to be the center of attention all the time. A little friend came over and she threw a fit because the little girl was playing with her brothers more than her. Which was not the case. My problem is that any time her father and i speak to eachother she gets mad and tells me not to talk to him. If i hug him he gets in the middle ( which turns into a 5 pack hug in no time) i do love her but i dont know how to help her to realize that its okay if i love daddy too. She gets mad if i kiss him when i leave i always tell the kids bye first and i hug and kiss them on their foreheads but she gets mad if i kiss "HER" daddy. She tells me all the time that hes "HER" daddy. i try to reassure her that he is her daddy and i am an extra person to love her and i can love everybody in the family. She asked me if i loved her mommy and i told her that i did because her mommy made her. I dont know what to do to make her share time and attention? And to help her to be comfortable that i am not wanting to take daddy away from her i wouldnt want a man that didnt raise his children.