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truebloodfreak's picture

I hear my skids talking about seeing their mom.for the holidays. They haven't seen her since July 2010 for 3 weeks. Supposedly BM,her man, and her 2 other kids are coming to Chicago for a music fest and going to pick up the boys and take them.to Miami for Xmas break... I think. I don't know if I heard it all right. But I've heard this empty promise before... I would LOVE it if skids go away for a week.or 2 to be with her. I need a break!!!! Plus she pretty much ignores them.anyways so its not like her influence rubs off on them. However SO is uncomfortable with the idea of her taking them.out of state. --- a little back story --- she visited the boys before a couple years ago. She.stayed with us because she didn't have anywhere else to go(she is a nomad) . She tryed r to kidnap the boys in the middle.of
the night to take them.with her to
California. He doesn't trust her to have them out of state. There is no court order,custody arrangement, child support or anything. He's afraid she'll keep them and I know for a fact that she won't because when she saw them.in 2010. She was happy to send them home with us. I want to convince him.to let.them.go so I can get a break. --oh yeah also so the skids can see how shitty of a BM she is....

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purpledaisies's picture

Since it has been that long he can file abandonment on her. Problem solved. That way she won't have any legal rights to them at all.

truebloodfreak's picture

How could he file.for abandonment? ??? She would give us a hard time I know. She calls a lot on the phone and "tries" to see them.as much as she can. She took off when SS9 was 7months old and has been in and out their lives- seasonal.parenting..... I really doubt SO will want to do the legal route since he hasn't for 9 years. He doesn't want to ruffle.feathers or create a thing. He rather just do things the way he has been. --> without any help from her..... well he knows I bitch to her about her sending money because she is a not a parent. I'm 99% sure she won't keep them, she's had the opportunity to and hasn't. Also SS14 doesn't want to live with her because all his friends/family live here in Chicago . I need a break= huge understatement.

purpledaisies's picture

I get that you need a break however if she is trying to see her kids and he won't let her then she can file against him. Does he not know that? HE needs to make it legal so that she can see her kids and he and have custody. All he has to do is prove he has been raising them which he has. then she would get visitation then if she tried anything she can get in trouble. HE REALLY needs to get this legal!

I didn't know that she was trying to see her kids if he does file abandonment then is just might be able to prove she was trying to see them. So as I said his best bet is to get it legal! If he doesn't he could very well lose them!