As a bit of background, my husband and I have been married for 9 years. 10 years ago his children both boys came to live with us. they saw their bm every other weekend and we split holidays. last year ss17 moved to his moms and ss15 still lives with us. She has taken us back to court at least 6 times in the last 9 years to get custody. Well really, she gave up fast on more visitation, but she really pushed for more child support! LOL! But that aside....We also have two girls who are 2 and 4.