Am I wrong here?
Today a friend of mine is coming over to visit. I met her at the hospital when I was there for attempted suicide (that's a story for a later date). It has been scheduled for over a week. Now my husband is being pissy cause he had to work last night and I have a friend coming over. Yeah I know he financially supports us and he had to work from 10pm-9am so he does not "feel" like watching the kids all 4 (3 of which he helped create) while I hang out with my friend. Here's the kicker.....his mom is here, has been here since the beginning of February and she's not leaving until March 25, but yet she is unable to help. So yeah I am pissed cause now I have to watch all his kids while trying to relax and unwind with a friend. He says I am being selfish and says I should plan these things on a week night cause he is off on Tues, Wed, Thurs. My friend has a 9yr old daughter and all the kids have school on a week night so this is really not an option. Ami being selfish to want to take a couple hours out of my week to have a friend over to talk and relax?
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No, especially when you gave
No, especially when you gave him a week notice. And why can't his mom help at all?
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
I don't know why mil can't
I don't know why mil can't help. I was wondering that myself. She says "your friends come to see you not me" and that's that. She goes into her room and watches tv and reads the bible. Meanwhile I try to keep up with all the kids including changing diapers(bs1), potty training (both ss7&sd2), making sure the kids don't kill themselves playing and all while trying to have a sane conversation with my friend. Not easy!
I agree with Melis
what is wrong with his mom that she can't help watch the kids. She is staying in your home right? 3 of the kids are her bio grandchildren correct so watching one more shouldn't be a problem. You gave your hubby plenty of advance notice - not your fault he stayed at work extra. You have every right to sit and relax with a friend and talk. What watching kids all the time is supposed to fulfillment enough. Aack! And NO you are not selfish so just wipe that thought out of your head right now! You are entitled to do something for yourself/own piece of mind you know - it's not always about the KIDS!
Of course not
No way are you being selfish. Hey I work two jobs too, but still manage to have a semi-social life. Especially since he is their father!!! You sound like you definitely need a break and some good girl time!!! He can do it for one night-! and them some
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
No not at all
my H and I work out a schedule that he gets one night off a week "daddys day off" and I get one. Sometimes weeks are busy and we end up sacraficing here or there but overall it works. We write it down on the family calendar.
May be that would help