I've got to vent or explode. I've been with my partner for almost 4 years now. I have 3 Bio Sons, all grown. And my partner has 4 bio kids ages 10,8 and 6yr old twins (my steps). We have no kids together. Since meeting him and eventually the kids, I have felt like they lack discipline. The 10 yr old still sucks her fingers, will NOT move off the sofa unless I force her to go outside, where she'll just go sit in the swing and not do anything. She's a good kid just extremely lazy. The 8yr is a smart mouth, attitude rolled up in a million mile an hour talker. She NEVER shuts up! The twins are a boy and a girl. The girl is actually the "good" kid at the moment, and the little boy is a cry baby,who is scared of his own shadow, rocks constantly and hums to himself. The BM supposedly has had him tested but swears there's nothing wrong with him. She recently had the 10yr old, who's LAZY, put on Concerta for her ADHD!! But has done nothing to help her son. We get the SK's EVERY weekend. From the time I get off work at 5pm on Friday until we take them to the BM's 7pm on Sunday. I work FT all week long and am to the point of calling off my relationship with my partner because I don't want to spend every single weekend with HIS kids. At the BM's house the kids are left to do as they please. They tear up everything, draw and write on the walls and furniture. Eat whatever they want when they want and no one ever disciplines them. I've tried to put my foot down and have rules and consequences in our house but the kids act like they don't have to mind me. They all fight constantly and lie, the 8yr old has been caught stealing on several occasions. I'm so tired of cooking for them, cleaning up after them, doing their laundry, being asked a million questions all weekend long that by Sunday night I want to drive by the BM's house and toss them out the window without stopping! My partner doesn't like to discipline the kids, he doesn't want to be the bad guy, so the kids have learned that they don't have to listen to him because he wont do anything he threatens. It feels like he always leaves it to me to do everything for them including discipline (time outs are all I'm allowed to do), which worked fine 4 years ago but not now! I feel guilty for not wanting to be around his kids because I do love them, I just don't like them! How do I approach the subject without him feeling like I hate his kids. But I need a BREAK before I break!!!